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I'm very disappointed with my brother
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Anonymous
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It would have been nice for your brother to offer, but he hasn't. And if I were in a similar situation and my sister asked, I would not offer. You had last minute plans, your brother has been planning this for a long time. Probably the thing he likes most is hanging out in the house where he is staying. If he is staying at a condo, it is not the same. Just find the Christmas that works for your family, whether at the ski slopes or at home.
You are asking your brother to make sacrifice for your lack of planning. And why should he? |
Anonymous
| OP, I am dealing with a bunch of family crap, too, so I can sympathize with you. However, it would be my DREAM to be put up in a condo away from my dysfunctional family on a trip like that. |
Anonymous
NP here. Have to say, your brother doesn't sound so horrible. What's so bad about sleeping on the couch? Even if you were pregnant? |
Anonymous
| Why are all these posters continuing to say the same thing after OP said the responses gave her a new perspective and she was ready to end the thread. Why keep piling on? |
Anonymous
Coz this is DCUM. 
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Anonymous
Have you tried to sleep on a love seat? 30 weeks preg for 2 weeks? Nope, not comfortable. |
Anonymous
| OP sounds very spoiled to me. When brother convinced her to ask aunt, OP could have clarified if it was THAT important to her. She doesn't even know enough to know she is getting the better end of the deal. OP, grow up, you're a parent now. |
Anonymous
| OP, perhaps if you explained to your brother that you staying in the condo would mean you and DH would have to be there every night after 7, people with kids would not even think of that. He could hang out at the house and just go to the condo to sleep, I see how you are thinking. I also see how he feels he would be left out of the big house. Are there any teenage cousins going who would be willing to hang out at the condo and watch tv while listening to the monitor after DC goes to bed? It sounds like the condo is walking distance close so cousin could just call if DC woke up? Or maybe you could bring a sitter with you? Buy her a couple ski passes in exchange for her staying at sitting DC at the condo at night? I know it is a one bedroom, but you could get an air mattress for the livingroom or something. |
Anonymous
| OP-I completely understand you. It hurts when someone who is supposed to be close doesn't do the nice thing. I would be upset too. I also don't understand what the big deal is for him? Really for him he can hang and when he is done he can go to sleep and have privacy with his girlfriend. For you-I can see how hard this will be because you have a child with a routine and you can easily put baby to sleep and then join everyone downstairs. I don't care if you have two pack and plays..it will be difficult unless you want to literally use the condo and not hang with everyone. What I wouldn't do is let this go because this can fester. I would point blank call your brother up and tell him your reason and that your aunt got a condo for him to use and not you. If he resists let him know that you are going to talk to the aunt about it and she can decide. Sorry-I wouldn't let this go and he needs to grow up. As for people who say your are ruining his tradition. What? It's your aunt and uncle with the tradition and they indicated what they wanted for this to work. Good luck! |
Anonymous
Stick with your plans and stay home. 
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Anonymous
I go to my mom's every Christmas. So that can't be MY tradition? Interesting... |
Anonymous
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Oh please OP, you just feel guilty (for no reason I may add) that you don't want to join the family celebration and that you are letting your brother down. So you are hiding behind "my brother is so mean! and really he is preventing me from going" instead of just telling your brother "look, I am on into the tradition you all have. Enjoy and we can catch up some other time" Grow up and be an adult.
Really, how hard is it to figure out how to buy another pack n play and that if your child is a light sleeper being in a house full of people is probably a bad idea???? Not too hard. Your excuses suck. |
Anonymous
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OP: I totally see your side and I think your brother is being thoughtless and selfish. It would be no more than a minor inconvenience for him to sleep in the condo; he could still hang out at the house until he was ready to go to sleep. On the other hand, for you it would probably mean spending most of your time in the condo away from everyone. Why would you want to take a long trip with a baby if you weren't really going to be able to visit with people? Pointless.
It's not really about what he is obligated to do and all the tradition nonsense that people are spouting; it's not even about the fact that you are joining last minute (after all, the other plans that fell through were also family related), it's about him doing a thoughtful thing for his sister. If anything, since he does this every year, couldn't he stand a little inconvenience one time to let his sister and her family join in? All the people criticizing you sound like self-centered jerks who only think about themselves. I think they are the ones who need to grow up. |
Anonymous
| Disappointed, okay. You're entitled. But honestly, let this one go. You decided last minute, not him. Go next year, and give plenty of notice. All will be forgiven, right? Holding grudges does no one any good. |
Anonymous
| OP, You are right. It is nothing for a grown couple to go sleep in a different place at night. I would not go if I were you and I would not feel bad about telling Dear Brother why. If your participation matters so much to him, then he can be the one to lug the baby bed back and forth and miss out on the fun at 7:00 each night. Real fun "vacation"! |