I'm a woman who is 270 pounds. Ask me anything!

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Anonymous wrote:What size clothing do you wear? Are you married? Have you always been this big or is this a recent gain? Are you trying to lose weight or do you feel okay with the way you are now?

I wear 16w pants or elastic waist skirts XL. My weight is all in my shoulders (look like a linebacker), ass and boobs (40 G).

Not married, and no boyfriend.

I've gained 120 pounds since around July 2009.

I do try to lose weight, but it's hard because I use food for comfort. Now that I'm so big I feel hopeless and food just makes me happy. I'd love to lose it but don't know where to start. I was 150-160 for years always trying to lose 20 pounds and now it just seems impossible.

How did you end up gaining so much weight since 2009? What happened in 2009?

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I was bulimic for 15 years and went to treatment for 3 months. I stopped throwing up and using laxatives but kept eating! Sometimes I wish I had never gone to rehab, but all my friends say I'm more fun and happy now. Except inside I'm just sad. And fat on the outside.

Are you still in therapy / treatment given you still have an active eating disorder?

Dont' give up. Every pound you lose counts.

I'm too embarrassed to go back. I just feel so low and can't face my therapist. I know I need to go back, it's just hard. The food is easy Thanks for the encouragement, I'm trying to get myself back on a program.

Just take it one step at a time...make the call to book an appointment and then you can worry about everything else later. And as someone who has worked with people with all kinds of mental health problems, I can assure you that many, many people come back multiple times over the course of life, your therapy will likely think nothing but good thoughts if you call. S/he will be glad you are talking steps to work on your health again.

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Anonymous wrote:What size blouse and pants do you wear?

I ask because I'm 230 and wear a size 18.

My goal is to get down to 170. I realize that even that weight is "morbidly obese" for most DCUM posters.

To other posters... if you looked at me you wouldn't automatically think, "Wow, look at that fatso." I look pretty normal, albeit plump.

How tall are you? Unless you are quite tall, at 230 pounds people would think you were fat. Not saying that to be mean but perhaps your body image is more distorted than you think.

Thanks. I already know I'm fat. Your post didn't bring me to catharsis.

That wasn't directed to you OP but to the PP that said she was 230 pounds but that people wouldn't think she was fat.

It wasn't OP who responded. It was me, "Ms. 230." And I know I'm fat. I still maintain people don't look at me and think "Fatso." I'm not in a rascal in sweatpants terrorizing the aisles of Walmart. I'm active and dress well. But thanks for the armchair psychiatry.

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Anonymous wrote:What size blouse and pants do you wear?

I ask because I'm 230 and wear a size 18.

My goal is to get down to 170. I realize that even that weight is "morbidly obese" for most DCUM posters.

To other posters... if you looked at me you wouldn't automatically think, "Wow, look at that fatso." I look pretty normal, albeit plump.

How tall are you? Unless you are quite tall, at 230 pounds people would think you were fat. Not saying that to be mean but perhaps your body image is more distorted than you think.

Thanks. I already know I'm fat. Your post didn't bring me to catharsis.

That wasn't directed to you OP but to the PP that said she was 230 pounds but that people wouldn't think she was fat.

NP here. And it's so important to you that that poster know you think she's fat? Does that make you feel good? All she probably means is she carries her weight more spread out on her body - tends to look better than just a huge gut. Get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:What size clothing do you wear? Are you married? Have you always been this big or is this a recent gain? Are you trying to lose weight or do you feel okay with the way you are now?

I wear 16w pants or elastic waist skirts XL. My weight is all in my shoulders (look like a linebacker), ass and boobs (40 G).

Not married, and no boyfriend.

I've gained 120 pounds since around July 2009.

I do try to lose weight, but it's hard because I use food for comfort. Now that I'm so big I feel hopeless and food just makes me happy. I'd love to lose it but don't know where to start. I was 150-160 for years always trying to lose 20 pounds and now it just seems impossible.

How did you end up gaining so much weight since 2009? What happened in 2009?

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I was bulimic for 15 years and went to treatment for 3 months. I stopped throwing up and using laxatives but kept eating! Sometimes I wish I had never gone to rehab, but all my friends say I'm more fun and happy now. Except inside I'm just sad. And fat on the outside.

Are you still in therapy / treatment given you still have an active eating disorder?

Dont' give up. Every pound you lose counts.

I'm too embarrassed to go back. I just feel so low and can't face my therapist. I know I need to go back, it's just hard. The food is easy Thanks for the encouragement, I'm trying to get myself back on a program.

OP, have you thought about maybe getting a new therapist? I know how you feel about not being able to face your therapist, especially when it's a problem that they can literally see so you can't hide it. Maybe think about finding someone new and starting over. It's so hard to deal with something so difficult when you have the added pressure of feeling like the person you're seeing for help is or could be judging you.

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OP, I just wanted to say I'm sorry and I have been there/am there right now. I have a problem with binge eating, got things more or less under control for 2 years and fell apart during pregnancy. I gained a disgusting amount of weight and now I just feel so overwhelmed like you said. And so not motivated. I hate weight struggles

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I just wanted to say I'm sorry and I have been there/am there right now. I have a problem with binge eating, got things more or less under control for 2 years and fell apart during pregnancy. I gained a disgusting amount of weight and now I just feel so overwhelmed like you said. And so not motivated. I hate weight struggles

I'm the PP who's pregnant and wishes she was 170 again. I also have problems with binge eating and it's been non stop during this pregnancy. Just wanted to tell you you're not alone.

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OP, have you ever considered weight loss surgery? I know a few people who've done it and had really great results. If binge-eating is your primary problem, it seems like a smaller stomach might really help.

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Are you very sure you have no medical problems? Have you told the doctor about your shortness of breath? Maybe you should have an physical with an EKG to be sure. Not trying to scare you, I'm only 30 lbs overweight and am in my 20's but already have health problems because of my weight.

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OP, please try to go back to your therapist if you are gaining weight at such a rapid pace so you can try to find a way to get control of things.

My MIL is over 300 pounds and the physical toll it has taken on her (at the age of 70) is incredible. The damage your weight may be doing may not yet be visible.

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I'm surprised by your clothing sizes. I'm 15 pounds lighter :255, and a few inches taller: 5'10, but a few sizes bigger:20 vs your 16. Are your clothes tight? Where do you shop?

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Are you still in therapy / treatment given you still have an active eating disorder?

Dont' give up. Every pound you lose counts.

Hey, this isn't something to say to someone with an active eating disorder.

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What do you think when you see someone thin or in really good shape?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by your clothing sizes. I'm 15 pounds lighter :255, and a few inches taller: 5'10, but a few sizes bigger:20 vs your 16. Are your clothes tight? Where do you shop?

She already said that she carries all her weight in her upper body and the 16W was her pants size.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you very sure you have no medical problems? Have you told the doctor about your shortness of breath? Maybe you should have an physical with an EKG to be sure. Not trying to scare you, I'm only 30 lbs overweight and am in my 20's but already have health problems because of my weight.

I love how people just can't believe that someone can be overweight and not falling down dying. I'm 45 pounds overweight and have always had perfect cholesterol (good and bad), low normal blood pressure, no diabetes, no heart issues, no knee or back issues. Do I need to lose weight? Yes, about 45 pounds but besides meaning I carry around a lot of extra weight when I jog, it hasn't meant any additional health problems. I'm also 6 months into a very healthy pregnancy (knock on wood) - very limited weight gain since I'm already so big and still doing a mix of walking and jogging 5 times a week.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by your clothing sizes. I'm 15 pounds lighter :255, and a few inches taller: 5'10, but a few sizes bigger:20 vs your 16. Are your clothes tight? Where do you shop?

She already said that she carries all her weight in her upper body and the 16W was her pants size.

Yeah, but then she said she was a 40G bra. I'm a 46D. So her torso is narrower than mine too. Granted she has bigger boobs, but I'm surprised that bigger boobs makes up for height, two pants sizes, wider torso, etc.