If by hire you mean do the girls rent the dresses, the answer is usually no. Those puffy gowns are actually not super expensive. |
Just do a 15th birthday ball |
Of course you can. I didn’t imply otherwise. You didn’t answer the question. |
My DD has been to 3 quinces and they were all different. One was both mass and party, this was like a wedding; another just had the party but it was formal, my DD was apart of the birthday girls court (I forgot the special name). The third one was more like a sweet sixteen, a big party with lots of dancing. We are not Hispanic or Latin American so had no idea what to but it seems you can choose whatever format suits you. |
Also Brazilian. I’m surprised OP hasn’t heard of them but maybe they weren’t big where she grew up. I’m more amused by the non Brazilians saying it’s cultural appropriation and not a thing in Brazil. It is but I’m sure there are variations within countries in Latin America. FYI: https://theculturetrip.com/south-america/brazil/articles/a-brief-history-of-the-festa-de-debutantes-in-brazil https://qbydavinci.com/blog/how-quinceaneras-are-celebrated-around-the-world-a-review/ OP-maybe explore more why your DD is interested in having this type of party? Is it friends? Social media? Then figure out if it’s feasible. Planning wise—I’m sure you can find info online. |
Who are you referring to as an American? |
PP. Yes that is what I meant. My daughters wanted a gown just like that to take photos in. How much do those gowns cost in general? |
+1. Also Mexican American. Same experience. An actual Quince is not just a big, fancy dance, even if there is variation. |
I wouldn’t think it would be a huge issue in theory to have one since you’re Latina but the issue is since you’re not from a country that does these you and your daughter aren’t embedded in the culture in a way that will create a real quince for her. Your friends and family don’t know or care about the traditions, they’ll just think it’s a birthday party, so the end result will not be what Hispanic girls who have quinces experience, which are a HUGE deal and entail special traditions. I don’t think it’s even problematic if you try to have one, I just don’t think it’ll be the same. Would be like someone trying to have a New Orleans first line after a funeral here, with people who had never heard of it and don’t get the meaning or tradition. Would probably fall flat. |
See replies above from other Brazilians. It is done in her country but she is not familiar with them. I wonder why her DD is asking for this---friends? is she trying to connect with part of her culture? If I were OP, I would explore reasoning behind her DD's request. |
If - as you put it - “she is not familiar,” then it is NOT her culture! That means it is cultural appropriation. It only does she need to say no to DD, this is a teachable moment where she can educate her child about toxic cultural appropriation. |
Because special trips aren't expensive and are easy to plan? |
This. Also Mex-Am from Texas. When OP said Quince, I thought she had planned for a mass, presentation, and the whole shebang per above. I don't know if Brazilians incorporate the religious component or not but that's what I had assumed re the Quince, which would be very weird if it wasn't your culture. If OP only wants to have a big birthday party, she can just have it. |
I am in the event industry. Quince's in this area cost about the same as weddings, which is to say they start around 25K, and many are upwards of 50K, and even higher is not that unusual. It's not even your culture. Tell her no. |
I think some people do it differently in Brazil. Some people do have a Catholic mass component. There is a court-15 pairs of boys/girls. Dad/daughter dance. Girls practice for it for several months. I left Brazil years ago so I think it’s been modernized bc of social media? |