THIS IS WHAT AUTISM LOOKS LIKE IN GIRLS. |
what kind of thing is this to say or write to anyone. are you sure YOU don't have NPD? this is not ok. |
My DD received a surprise (to me) BPD diagnosis when I expected ASD. It’s been a few years now and I can say that one thing that really confirmed it for me was that the treatment recommended by the psychologist was the only thing that really helped in YEARS of various therapies, medications, residential treatment stays, etc. Use this as a map and see if it gets you to a better place. |
but (not op but pp) my ds has not 'learned' this. Has been inherent and evident since he was 7. |
what was the treatment? |
I do think that seeing 'NPD' everywhere is a new and very american thing. It's especially common among women referring to their mothers or women referring to their ex dhs. I'm not saying it's not accurate exactly but NPD is a very extreme dx and i think a lot of people attribute it where someone is actually just an a****** . |
THIS IS ALSO WHAT NPD LOOKS LIKE |
OP here, what makes you say this? Almost every other post here is encouraging DD to get a second evaluation and is telling me that she almost certainly has AuDHD. |
OP here. Yes, minus the lying part, many of these apply to her. DH and I always feel like walking on eggshells around DD -- isn't that a frequent sign of either BPD or ASD? I know a lot of parents of autistic kids have to tiptoe around their kids in case they have an autistic meltdown. |
In our case, residential DBT treatment. |
Not the PP you are replying to but you are comparing the opinion of a neuropsychologist who specializes in autism in girls and examined and assessed your daughter to the recommendations of internet strangers with varied personal experiences with special needs based only on a list of characteristics that is filtered through your perception of what you think her diagnoses are. I would find a specialist in personality disorders and see what their impression is from the report and from personally assessing your DD. |
DP. Yes, these are frequent with BPD and several other disorders ranging from FASD and PTSD, especially at 21. Get a 2nd opinion. You'll likely have to try several different therapies for her to find a good fit. No matter what it is, she will mellow out as she approaches 30 or in her 30s. She's got a great mom to make sure she gets the support she needs and she will be okay. You're in the thick of it right now. Hang in there. |
NO. |
ASD is more common than NPD and BPD. Naturally more people here would have experience with ASD.
Get the second eval if you feel something is off, but trust someone in person evaluating your child over the posters here imo. What people are saying about ASD and cluster B personalities is really reductive. The two are very different but it’s hard to get that across in writing. I don’t have experience with NPD, but what you’ve written sounds like BPD is a possibility imo. If it is is BPD, the comments on failure to launch aren’t fear mongering. Therapy (like dbt therapy) now, while your child is willing to do it, is important. Your child may not chill at age 30; BPD is a lifelong struggle. FWIW, you’re not alone, OP. This is hard and scary. I wish you the best and hope you find the right help for your child, whatever the diagnosis ends up being. |
Get a second opinion before you do anything. |