How did you handle p0rn?
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Anonymous
| I found something like that but cartoon version (anime). I had a serious talk with him but made sure not shame him. I explained why it’s bad for him, how it can be addictive and lead to unrealistic and unhealthy relationships, how he can regulate self control and ask for help when he needs it. I think in the long run, it’s better to talk than just put on restrictions. I mean come on, they know how to get around that easily. I have periodically checked his computer and while there maybe some things I’d frown upon, nothing anywhere near that kind of thing anymore. I’m going to keep checking while he builds his trust back but so far so good! He was in 5th grade at the time. |
Anonymous
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OP why are you spelling Porn P0rn?
Anywho, just get a content blocker. |
Anonymous
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There’s a fine line between telling a kid that online porn is bad and teaching him that sexual curiosity is bad. It’s normal and natural human development to be interested in this stuff - even as young as eight. You are a safe person for him to ask questions. The internet is not a safe place to ask questions. He is not bad for being curious or interested in these things. Get him books about changing bodies so he knows what’s going on.
Kids will see porn online. It’s not a question of if but when. Their friends will have access and will show it to them. If you’re lucky it will be in middle school. Give them some idea what to expect before they encounter it. You can do this without getting explicit. Tell them grownups like to look at naked people online and some day their friends might show them. They don’t have to watch it and they can tell you if they feel confused by anything they see. Again, having their friends show them confusing or upsetting things won’t make them a bad person. It is not a good idea to seek out or watch these things because they are for grownups and the imagery gets stuck in your brain and is hard to forget. Sometimes it’s also violent. Hopefully with some guidance they will come to you and/or avoid being shocked or addicted if it comes up. |
Anonymous
| Our 4 year old son obsesses over pictures of women in bikinis. When we were in a flight, he asked for my phone to take pictures of some Gucci ad with a topless woman hiding behind a purse. He says those pictures make him feel funny. Not sure how to handle. |
Anonymous
You are one sheltered prude. There are girls developing boobs at this age and boys are absolutely masterbating too then. |
Anonymous
You are a sick f-. |
Anonymous
I bet your kid is doing it right now. |
Anonymous
He needs to see a doc |
Anonymous
You don’t even know how to spell it. What an idiot you are |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
No, the idiots are the ones here who think 8 year olds don’t do that. |
Anonymous
| My kid did this at six, before we realized we needed a content blocker, and saw way worse stuff. He’s a few years older now and seems fine. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not that big of a deal. |
Anonymous
Well great parenting |
Anonymous
| Nudity or bathing suits will not cause harm. Violence and negative scenes with abuse will potentially cause harm. But that is true even if the models are clothed. It’s not sex or the human body that is the problem. |
Anonymous
| This is why our kids don’t get unsupervised access to the internet. Still haven’t figured out how to manage when he goes to friends’ houses. |