Couples who sit on the same side of the booth in a restaurant

[Anonymous]

I didn't know we annoyed ppl by sitting together until I read it here on DCUM. I told DH about it and now, when we go out he sits first, moves and says "come babe let's drive those b!tches crazy with our 'sitting side by side wierdness' come closer"

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We sit on the same side until our food arrives. I'm always a bit chilly and he provides me with body heat. We are a sugary sweet couple that many would love to smack. We even have our own language

This is a joke, right?

No. We have over 20 nicknames that we use regularly. We serenade each other with the "good morning" song every morning and whoever leaves first stands in front of the others car and blows kisses. If I am "catching the kiss" I pretend to put it in my cleavage and if he is "catching" he lifts his briefcase up and opens the flap . Also when he comes home from work we have a long hug and hum the chorus from "Just Like A Star". We've been together 5 years and are 25 and 33 years of age. We alternate between having an awesome sex life or an average depending on our work loads.

DIABETICS, TAKE NOTE AND DO NOT READ THIS POST.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can see that I'm not going to get any real answers to this thread as to why it bothers people...

Probably because most people aren't bothered by it. Also as some of the PP's mentioned there are legitimate reasons for it (such as sports viewing, view out the window, uncomfortable chairs etc.)

Of course I don't think most of the American population is bothered by couples sitting beside each other in restaurants, but a significant amount of posters in the last thread said it bothered them.

Additionally, many posters on other forums and people in real life have said it bothers them.

[Anonymous]

Who cares if it bothers them? Keep doing it, I say! If they are jealous, it is their problem, not yours. If they stare - ignore them even more!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a pet peeve of mine. I don't put much thought into it or get upset but when I see it, it does annoy me. DH and I are very lovey dovey but sitting across from each other in a booth allows better eye contact and emotional connection than being physically close that moment.

Why does it annoy you, though? That's what I'm trying to understand.

I also prefer to sit across from my DH so that I can look into his eyes, but DH really likes sitting side by side, so that's what we do.

I'm the first PP above. Hmm, how to articulate why it bugs me? It's hard to explain. If I had to say something I guess I'd say that usually it seems as if the couple is in the early stages of their relationship. Probably not true of DCUMers. So it's early in the relationship and they just have to be glued to each other but don't really have anything to say to each other. Urgh, I'm not doing a good job at explaining why. As lovey dovey and physical as DH and I are with each other, I want to be able to look into his eyes and have a real conversation like a human being. When I see a couple on the same side of the booth, I guess I'm assuming that they're not equals who want to look each other in the eyes, they're like teenagers who don't know how to relate to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a pet peeve of mine. I don't put much thought into it or get upset but when I see it, it does annoy me. DH and I are very lovey dovey but sitting across from each other in a booth allows better eye contact and emotional connection than being physically close that moment.

Why does it annoy you, though? That's what I'm trying to understand.

I also prefer to sit across from my DH so that I can look into his eyes, but DH really likes sitting side by side, so that's what we do.

I'm the first PP above. Hmm, how to articulate why it bugs me? It's hard to explain. If I had to say something I guess I'd say that usually it seems as if the couple is in the early stages of their relationship. Probably not true of DCUMers. So it's early in the relationship and they just have to be glued to each other but don't really have anything to say to each other. Urgh, I'm not doing a good job at explaining why. As lovey dovey and physical as DH and I are with each other, I want to be able to look into his eyes and have a real conversation like a human being. When I see a couple on the same side of the booth, I guess I'm assuming that they're not equals who want to look each other in the eyes, they're like teenagers who don't know how to relate to each other.

Thank you for explaining! I don't agree, but I'm glad to read why it bothers some people.

[Anonymous]

I can't understand why ppl are not able to talk or look in the eyes sitting side by side.
DH and I are very very physical so we really enjoy being able to touch each other and be closer together.

[Anonymous]

I also sit side by side with my girlfriends!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the first PP above. Hmm, how to articulate why it bugs me? It's hard to explain. If I had to say something I guess I'd say that usually it seems as if the couple is in the early stages of their relationship. Probably not true of DCUMers. So it's early in the relationship and they just have to be glued to each other but don't really have anything to say to each other. Urgh, I'm not doing a good job at explaining why. As lovey dovey and physical as DH and I are with each other, I want to be able to look into his eyes and have a real conversation like a human being. When I see a couple on the same side of the booth, I guess I'm assuming that they're not equals who want to look each other in the eyes, they're like teenagers who don't know how to relate to each other.

To me it is like when you have that friend and when you invite her and her boyfriend over and some other people to hang out she has to sit on her boyfriends lap, and he has his hand on her shoulder rubbing it. It isn't over the top PDA but you feel like you are addressing Bennifer - not Jennifer as a person and then her boyfriend Ben as a person. Yes, you are a couple to each other. But in my relationship with the person, I want to be able to relate to them as individuals. So to me it isn't as annoying as the person that cuts me off in the car and then stops in front of me to make a left or the other 1001 things people do while driving that actually raises my blood pressure. It is more of an aw shucks, look at Bennifer in the booth - type of thing. And like the PP mentioned, I would expect something like that with teenagers where you feel you can't go on unless you hear from your boyfriend multiple times a day and are joined at the hip. Oh - and this excludes when people are on the same side to watch a game on tv. I thought that story was funny,.

[Anonymous]

I still remember when a high school boyfriend and I went to a restaurant and he sat right next to me in a both. He was the lovey-dovey type, and I like my personal space. I hated it, but I don't care if other people like to sit that way.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't bother me but when I see a couple doing this I goof on them. Looks silly like a couple walking with their hands in the back pockets of the other person's jeans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We sit on the same side until our food arrives. I'm always a bit chilly and he provides me with body heat. We are a sugary sweet couple that many would love to smack. We even have our own language

This is a joke, right?

It's either a joke or this person doesn't know how to organize a thoght. What does having your own luggage have to do with being sugary sweet. Does having your own luggage now make you suggary sweet? Im so confused by this train of thought. Last i checked having your own luggage wasn't suggary sweet.

[Anonymous]

This is hysterically funny to me as a pet peeve. After 21 years of marriage, I may sit across form DH or I may sit next to him. Usually DS is on the other side. Somebody has to sit next to someboday at a table for 4 and when you are 3 people, somebody ends up alone.

Maybe most of you folks haven't been married as long as we have. But I really hope you are still wanting to sit next to your significant other when you have been married as long or longer as we have been.

My pet peeve: people falling asleep on the metro and slumping on my shoulder. Complete strangers too!

[Anonymous]

I think they are sugary sweet becAuse they have their own LANGUAGE. Maybe they share luggage, too, though? Or maybe the have separate luggage, and hers is labeled "Twinkie" and his says "Big Papa"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also sit side by side with my girlfriends!

non-monogamous lesbian?