I've attended one for the daughter of my Puerto Rican assistant.
The family (particularly the Dad) planned the event for over a year. The daughter wore two ball gowns. The Dad made all of the decorations. They held the event in the church event hall. It was fun and beautiful. |
I’m Brazilian and I think OP is full of it. “Festa de quinze” is a big deal in Brazil. It’s the coming of age milestone year much like sweet 16 in the United States. |
It’s not the same as you admit. And at this point you can take your bigoted self out of here. You can be Hispanic AND American. |
We went for peak bloom and my tweens were obsessing over the group of kids in their beautiful ball gowns at the mall. We saw a few girls near the WW2 memorial, FDR memorial and opposite the Jefferson memorial. One of them even had a bunch of young boys all dressed up carrying her train. The girls looked gorgeous and "fancy". Do people hire these gowns and also hire professional photographers and makeup artists for mall quince photoshoots as a group to reduce costs? |
I'm Mexican American from South Texas. I was in 5-6 of these as a teen and my son and nephews have been in many as escorts to the court of 15 girls who wear matching dresses and do a special dance. (I have never in over 50 years see the kids waltz!) A real quince is different from just a big party. There is a church component to it that includes a Mass and the presentation of rose to la Virgen de Guadalupe. Priests will usually require that the girl be attending weekly Mass, youth ministry activities, and preparing for Confirmation. There are usually Padrinos, which are close family friends who "sponsor" various things that are presented to the girl at either the ceremony or the party afterwards like a rosary, a bible, a crown, a ring, etc... These days I've seen people doing some weird "first high heels" thing and "last doll" thing, which I find to be silly. Mariachis are expected, as is a full dinner, dancing, and a cake with 15 little dolls on it. |
If by hire you mean do the girls rent the dresses, the answer is usually no. Those puffy gowns are actually not super expensive. |
Just do a 15th birthday ball |
Of course you can. I didn’t imply otherwise. You didn’t answer the question. |
My DD has been to 3 quinces and they were all different. One was both mass and party, this was like a wedding; another just had the party but it was formal, my DD was apart of the birthday girls court (I forgot the special name). The third one was more like a sweet sixteen, a big party with lots of dancing. We are not Hispanic or Latin American so had no idea what to but it seems you can choose whatever format suits you. |
Also Brazilian. I’m surprised OP hasn’t heard of them but maybe they weren’t big where she grew up. I’m more amused by the non Brazilians saying it’s cultural appropriation and not a thing in Brazil. It is but I’m sure there are variations within countries in Latin America. FYI: https://theculturetrip.com/south-america/brazil/articles/a-brief-history-of-the-festa-de-debutantes-in-brazil https://qbydavinci.com/blog/how-quinceaneras-are-celebrated-around-the-world-a-review/ OP-maybe explore more why your DD is interested in having this type of party? Is it friends? Social media? Then figure out if it’s feasible. Planning wise—I’m sure you can find info online. |
Who are you referring to as an American? |
PP. Yes that is what I meant. My daughters wanted a gown just like that to take photos in. How much do those gowns cost in general? |
+1. Also Mexican American. Same experience. An actual Quince is not just a big, fancy dance, even if there is variation. |
I wouldn’t think it would be a huge issue in theory to have one since you’re Latina but the issue is since you’re not from a country that does these you and your daughter aren’t embedded in the culture in a way that will create a real quince for her. Your friends and family don’t know or care about the traditions, they’ll just think it’s a birthday party, so the end result will not be what Hispanic girls who have quinces experience, which are a HUGE deal and entail special traditions. I don’t think it’s even problematic if you try to have one, I just don’t think it’ll be the same. Would be like someone trying to have a New Orleans first line after a funeral here, with people who had never heard of it and don’t get the meaning or tradition. Would probably fall flat. |
See replies above from other Brazilians. It is done in her country but she is not familiar with them. I wonder why her DD is asking for this---friends? is she trying to connect with part of her culture? If I were OP, I would explore reasoning behind her DD's request. |