When did your child stop their visits to other parent?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You keep posting. No one can give you permission to terminate visits. Stop manipulating your child and support them having a relationship with their dad. You are going to screw them up big time.

Or, call dad and tell him no more visits. Stop taking child support, health insurance and everything else he provides since you are stopping his parental rights.

Oh, you're one of those dads who thinks the visitation is because "I pay." That's not how it works.

No, I’m someone who thinks a relationship is important with both parents. So, really you want to get out of paying child support.

Yes, I think a relationship with both parents is important too. But, I recognize that the quality of the relationship and the degree to which it involves the parent and child being physically dependent on how the parent invests in the relationship. (and I don't mean a monetary investment)

My DCs chose to see less and less of their father because of choices he made. He did not make the investment of his time, attention, support and personal sacrifice for their benefit, and, as they grew older, they realized that and set boundaries.

Many men want to believe that the lack of a relationship is due to some kind of alienation by the spouse. They think they are entitled to a certain kind of relationship by virtue of being a birth parent, and they prefer to blame the spouse than self-examine their parenting and adjust. Yes, women can do this too.

You seem to hate men and will look for any excuse to slam them. Ever stop and think he knew you didn't support the relationship or shared parenting and he gave up fighting as there was no point as no matter how hard he tried, you will find ways to sabotage it. What self-reflection have you done to see the role you play/played in all this? It's easy to blame him but it took both of you to create this situation and it will take both of you for your child to have a relationship with him. It's not healthy for a child to lose their parent, especially due to the selfishness of the other parent who will use any excuse to terminate the relationship. A marginal parent is still better than no parent.

DP. Says the sad MRAer who sits in here 24-7 spreading their miserable hatred of women. Newsflash, you are the common denominator; the problem is you. MRA Reddit would be a much more welcoming place for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You keep posting. No one can give you permission to terminate visits. Stop manipulating your child and support them having a relationship with their dad. You are going to screw them up big time.

Or, call dad and tell him no more visits. Stop taking child support, health insurance and everything else he provides since you are stopping his parental rights.

Oh, you're one of those dads who thinks the visitation is because "I pay." That's not how it works.

No, I’m someone who thinks a relationship is important with both parents. So, really you want to get out of paying child support.

Yes, I think a relationship with both parents is important too. But, I recognize that the quality of the relationship and the degree to which it involves the parent and child being physically dependent on how the parent invests in the relationship. (and I don't mean a monetary investment)

My DCs chose to see less and less of their father because of choices he made. He did not make the investment of his time, attention, support and personal sacrifice for their benefit, and, as they grew older, they realized that and set boundaries.

Many men want to believe that the lack of a relationship is due to some kind of alienation by the spouse. They think they are entitled to a certain kind of relationship by virtue of being a birth parent, and they prefer to blame the spouse than self-examine their parenting and adjust. Yes, women can do this too.

You seem to hate men and will look for any excuse to slam them. Ever stop and think he knew you didn't support the relationship or shared parenting and he gave up fighting as there was no point as no matter how hard he tried, you will find ways to sabotage it. What self-reflection have you done to see the role you play/played in all this? It's easy to blame him but it took both of you to create this situation and it will take both of you for your child to have a relationship with him. It's not healthy for a child to lose their parent, especially due to the selfishness of the other parent who will use any excuse to terminate the relationship. A marginal parent is still better than no parent.

DP. Says the sad MRAer who sits in here 24-7 spreading their miserable hatred of women. Newsflash, you are the common denominator; the problem is you. MRA Reddit would be a much more welcoming place for you.

Ironic you are making up stuff about others while assuming every father is a bad parent and every mother is a good parent while advocating to terminate a relationship between and and his kids. Ever stop to think the long term harm you are doing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In most cases, kids do what they want once they are 16, especially if they have a car. I read about forced visitation until 18 but never saw it play that way in real life. Most people are unwilling to go to court to force a 16 + year-old to spend time with them, as the result is typically counterproductive.

Court orders are till age 18 or graduation from high school. You failed as a parent if you let your kids do what every they want except if you are behind stopping visits, which is pretty common.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My child is going on 16 and has, in passing, mentioned not seeing his father on weekends. He currently goes every weekend.

Is this pretty much par the course? I assumed 18, but maybe that's a bit late.

If he just mentioned in passing, I wouldn't read into it much. However, I can't think of a single time forced visitation leads to good things, especially after a certain age. If he mentions it again, see if dad would be open to a more informal schedule with DS.

Yes visitation is important. Moms can hold vengeance even if they caused the divorce. No good can come from taking away a parent. There is no abuse or neglect, just different parenting. You don’t think losing a parent unnecessarily impacts a child.

But why forced to? And how do you know there's no abuse or neglect? You're making a random post about you.

Sorry your kids don't want to see you, but judging how you're all up on this forum, you seem controlling and emotionally abusive. I get that it's easy to blame the mom for your shortcomings, but I bet you believe you played no part in why your kids stopped seeing you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In most cases, kids do what they want once they are 16, especially if they have a car. I read about forced visitation until 18 but never saw it play that way in real life. Most people are unwilling to go to court to force a 16 + year-old to spend time with them, as the result is typically counterproductive.

Court orders are till age 18 or graduation from high school. You failed as a parent if you let your kids do what every they want except if you are behind stopping visits, which is pretty common.

Are you the same poster who a few months back saying a mom should physically force her 6ft son into a car and drive him to his dads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cases, kids do what they want once they are 16, especially if they have a car. I read about forced visitation until 18 but never saw it play that way in real life. Most people are unwilling to go to court to force a 16 + year-old to spend time with them, as the result is typically counterproductive.

Court orders are till age 18 or graduation from high school. You failed as a parent if you let your kids do what every they want except if you are behind stopping visits, which is pretty common.

Are you the same poster who a few months back saying a mom should physically force her 6ft son into a car and drive him to his dads?

If you parented properly it wouldn't even be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is going on 16 and has, in passing, mentioned not seeing his father on weekends. He currently goes every weekend.

Is this pretty much par the course? I assumed 18, but maybe that's a bit late.

If he just mentioned in passing, I wouldn't read into it much. However, I can't think of a single time forced visitation leads to good things, especially after a certain age. If he mentions it again, see if dad would be open to a more informal schedule with DS.

Yes visitation is important. Moms can hold vengeance even if they caused the divorce. No good can come from taking away a parent. There is no abuse or neglect, just different parenting. You don’t think losing a parent unnecessarily impacts a child.

But why forced to? And how do you know there's no abuse or neglect? You're making a random post about you.

Sorry your kids don't want to see you, but judging how you're all up on this forum, you seem controlling and emotionally abusive. I get that it's easy to blame the mom for your shortcomings, but I bet you believe you played no part in why your kids stopped seeing you.

Many mom's withhold kids from their dad's. You may want to pretend otherwise, but many want to cover up their behavior with their affairs, and just replace Dad with the latest man they are with.

[Anonymous]

Do you think that's what's happening with this 16 year old?? Get some therapy, man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You keep posting. No one can give you permission to terminate visits. Stop manipulating your child and support them having a relationship with their dad. You are going to screw them up big time.

Or, call dad and tell him no more visits. Stop taking child support, health insurance and everything else he provides since you are stopping his parental rights.

I'm OP. I've never posted before. Take a deep breath and get a grip.
FYI, I don't receive child support. Again, take a deep breath or two, and get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cases, kids do what they want once they are 16, especially if they have a car. I read about forced visitation until 18 but never saw it play that way in real life. Most people are unwilling to go to court to force a 16 + year-old to spend time with them, as the result is typically counterproductive.

Court orders are till age 18 or graduation from high school. You failed as a parent if you let your kids do what every they want except if you are behind stopping visits, which is pretty common.

Are you the same poster who a few months back saying a mom should physically force her 6ft son into a car and drive him to his dads?

If you parented properly it wouldn't even be an issue.

Buddy I’m married. I’m just asking if you’re the same poster who was hysterical over the fact that a woman wouldn’t use physical force to make a 16 year old get in a car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is going on 16 and has, in passing, mentioned not seeing his father on weekends. He currently goes every weekend.

Is this pretty much par the course? I assumed 18, but maybe that's a bit late.

If he just mentioned in passing, I wouldn't read into it much. However, I can't think of a single time forced visitation leads to good things, especially after a certain age. If he mentions it again, see if dad would be open to a more informal schedule with DS.

Yes visitation is important. Moms can hold vengeance even if they caused the divorce. No good can come from taking away a parent. There is no abuse or neglect, just different parenting. You don’t think losing a parent unnecessarily impacts a child.

But why forced to? And how do you know there's no abuse or neglect? You're making a random post about you.

Sorry your kids don't want to see you, but judging how you're all up on this forum, you seem controlling and emotionally abusive. I get that it's easy to blame the mom for your shortcomings, but I bet you believe you played no part in why your kids stopped seeing you.

Many mom's withhold kids from their dad's. You may want to pretend otherwise, but many want to cover up their behavior with their affairs, and just replace Dad with the latest man they are with.

You seem confused about what the word “divorced” means. A woman can literally keep a male harem the day her divorce is final and it’s not an affair, or any of her exes business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is going on 16 and has, in passing, mentioned not seeing his father on weekends. He currently goes every weekend.

Is this pretty much par the course? I assumed 18, but maybe that's a bit late.

If he just mentioned in passing, I wouldn't read into it much. However, I can't think of a single time forced visitation leads to good things, especially after a certain age. If he mentions it again, see if dad would be open to a more informal schedule with DS.

Yes visitation is important. Moms can hold vengeance even if they caused the divorce. No good can come from taking away a parent. There is no abuse or neglect, just different parenting. You don’t think losing a parent unnecessarily impacts a child.

But why forced to? And how do you know there's no abuse or neglect? You're making a random post about you.

Sorry your kids don't want to see you, but judging how you're all up on this forum, you seem controlling and emotionally abusive. I get that it's easy to blame the mom for your shortcomings, but I bet you believe you played no part in why your kids stopped seeing you.

Many mom's withhold kids from their dad's. You may want to pretend otherwise, but many want to cover up their behavior with their affairs, and just replace Dad with the latest man they are with.

You seem confused about what the word “divorced” means. A woman can literally keep a male harem the day her divorce is final and it’s not an affair, or any of her exes business.

*heck or a female harem

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone who gave great insight. I was talking with a friend who said by 18 most have stopped doing the back and forth so it made me wonder. I think what many mentioned of it becoming a much more casual arrangement is where it is going. I spoke with my son about it and he said he wants to meet up with friends during the weekend, which I get. He's also spoken about working. So basically there being some flexibility in his weekends. Haven't spoken with his father, but I can't imagine it being a problem unless our son was going weeks without seeing him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You keep posting. No one can give you permission to terminate visits. Stop manipulating your child and support them having a relationship with their dad. You are going to screw them up big time.

Or, call dad and tell him no more visits. Stop taking child support, health insurance and everything else he provides since you are stopping his parental rights.

Oh, you're one of those dads who thinks the visitation is because "I pay." That's not how it works.

No, I’m someone who thinks a relationship is important with both parents. So, really you want to get out of paying child support.

Yes, I think a relationship with both parents is important too. But, I recognize that the quality of the relationship and the degree to which it involves the parent and child being physically dependent on how the parent invests in the relationship. (and I don't mean a monetary investment)

My DCs chose to see less and less of their father because of choices he made. He did not make the investment of his time, attention, support and personal sacrifice for their benefit, and, as they grew older, they realized that and set boundaries.

Many men want to believe that the lack of a relationship is due to some kind of alienation by the spouse. They think they are entitled to a certain kind of relationship by virtue of being a birth parent, and they prefer to blame the spouse than self-examine their parenting and adjust. Yes, women can do this too.

You seem to hate men and will look for any excuse to slam them. Ever stop and think he knew you didn't support the relationship or shared parenting and he gave up fighting as there was no point as no matter how hard he tried, you will find ways to sabotage it. What self-reflection have you done to see the role you play/played in all this? It's easy to blame him but it took both of you to create this situation and it will take both of you for your child to have a relationship with him. It's not healthy for a child to lose their parent, especially due to the selfishness of the other parent who will use any excuse to terminate the relationship. A marginal parent is still better than no parent.

You should seek help, immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cases, kids do what they want once they are 16, especially if they have a car. I read about forced visitation until 18 but never saw it play that way in real life. Most people are unwilling to go to court to force a 16 + year-old to spend time with them, as the result is typically counterproductive.

Court orders are till age 18 or graduation from high school. You failed as a parent if you let your kids do what every they want except if you are behind stopping visits, which is pretty common.

16-year-olds with cars are going to stay where they want to stay. In some cases, it may have nothing to do with their parents. They'll choose to stay wherever is most convenient to their friends, school, and sports, and will factor in where they have a more comfortable bed and better food. My 13-year-old is already bigger than me. I don't see myself forcing him to do anything in 3 more years. It's a bit scary on a bigger level.