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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You keep posting. No one can give you permission to terminate visits. Stop manipulating your child and support them having a relationship with their dad. You are going to screw them up big time. Or, call dad and tell him no more visits. Stop taking child support, health insurance and everything else he provides since you are stopping his parental rights. [/quote] Oh, you're one of those dads who thinks the visitation is because "I pay." That's not how it works. [/quote] No, I’m someone who thinks[b] a relationship is important with both parents.[/b] So, really you want to get out of paying child support. [/quote] Yes, I think a relationship with both parents is important too. But, I recognize that the quality of the relationship and the degree to which it involves the parent and child being physically dependent on how the parent invests in the relationship. (and I don't mean a monetary investment) My DCs chose to see less and less of their father because of choices he made. He did not make the investment of his time, attention, support and personal sacrifice for their benefit, and, as they grew older, they realized that and set boundaries. Many men want to believe that the lack of a relationship is due to some kind of alienation by the spouse. They think they are entitled to a certain kind of relationship by virtue of being a birth parent, and they prefer to blame the spouse than self-examine their parenting and adjust. Yes, women can do this too. [/quote] You seem to hate men and will look for any excuse to slam them. Ever stop and think he knew you didn't support the relationship or shared parenting and he gave up fighting as there was no point as no matter how hard he tried, you will find ways to sabotage it. What self-reflection have you done to see the role you play/played in all this? It's easy to blame him but it took both of you to create this situation and it will take both of you for your child to have a relationship with him. It's not healthy for a child to lose their parent, especially due to the selfishness of the other parent who will use any excuse to terminate the relationship. A marginal parent is still better than no parent.[/quote] You should seek help, immediately. [/quote]
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