If you parented properly it wouldn't even be an issue. |
Many mom's withhold kids from their dad's. You may want to pretend otherwise, but many want to cover up their behavior with their affairs, and just replace Dad with the latest man they are with. |
Do you think that's what's happening with this 16 year old?? Get some therapy, man. |
I'm OP. I've never posted before. Take a deep breath and get a grip. FYI, I don't receive child support. Again, take a deep breath or two, and get a grip. |
Buddy I’m married. I’m just asking if you’re the same poster who was hysterical over the fact that a woman wouldn’t use physical force to make a 16 year old get in a car. |
You seem confused about what the word “divorced” means. A woman can literally keep a male harem the day her divorce is final and it’s not an affair, or any of her exes business. |
*heck or a female harem |
OP here. Thanks everyone who gave great insight. I was talking with a friend who said by 18 most have stopped doing the back and forth so it made me wonder. I think what many mentioned of it becoming a much more casual arrangement is where it is going. I spoke with my son about it and he said he wants to meet up with friends during the weekend, which I get. He's also spoken about working. So basically there being some flexibility in his weekends. Haven't spoken with his father, but I can't imagine it being a problem unless our son was going weeks without seeing him. |
You should seek help, immediately. |
16-year-olds with cars are going to stay where they want to stay. In some cases, it may have nothing to do with their parents. They'll choose to stay wherever is most convenient to their friends, school, and sports, and will factor in where they have a more comfortable bed and better food. My 13-year-old is already bigger than me. I don't see myself forcing him to do anything in 3 more years. It's a bit scary on a bigger level. |
You are clearly the issue. |
Physical force doesn't work when your kid is bigger and stronger. In any case, legally compelling a 16-year-old to spend time with someone backed up by physical force is only going to exacerbate the underlying issue. Try instead calling them and inviting them to lunch, or showing up to cheer for them at their basketball game. |
Says the dad whose kids need to be forced to see him. You're the issue, clearly. |
You assume a lot and usually kids will side with the primary parent and when that parent (i.e. you) doesn't want visits, they go along with it to make you happy. |
Mom blaming for the choices teenagers make when they finally reach the age of enforcing boundaries. But whatever helps you sleep at night. |