When I married my husband he had six figure debt from law school.
We had several ROUGH years during the recession. We put a ton of money towards his debt (I had none) and eventually paid it off and are fine now. He now makes 5x more than I do. It never occurred to me, even in hard times, even in earnings disparities, that we were not a team. I'd be more concerned about how she is so his-hers minded. That said, some couples do keep separate finances. Just realize than when he's a specialist if he's pulling in double her salary this might lead to a LOT of spite. |
+1. Any sensible person with a sensible family has premarital counseling. |
Separate finances are fine when you are on the same page and sharing burdens, but I have a relative who reminds me of this woman. She expected her new husband's salary to pay for all bills and necessities and expected to keep all of her own salary private for her own luxury expenses and clothing. When he objected to this arrangement she cried to her parents who took her side and she ended up divorced.
She is now remarried and a SAHM but has a large amount of her own money that she keeps hidden. |
Yes, this matters? Plastic surgery? ER? |
Of course not. Daughter had $$$ in her eyes to marry a doctor. Clock was ticking to lock him down and start having kids. When you’re in that mode you don’t give concerns to trivial things like compatibility, debt, social issues, extended family involvement, alcohol, etc. It’s just a race down the aisle. |
+1. I don’t agree with the daughter paying off her husband’s loans, but people are seriously stupid about financial and general life prospects of doctors. Unless they’re from a rich family, they have crazy debt, crappy work life balance, unless they take a lower paying job, and the higher paying specialties don’t pay enough to justify the other bad stuff like stress, being on call, limited vacation time, navigating bureaucracy, etc. |
Is the moral of the story here that you are only allowed to become a doctor if you come from a wealthy family? This country is seriously messed up |
How do you muck up $300k/yr such that you don’t become a multi millionaire? In ten years that’s $3 million. A career is 20-30 years. |
I get we all like bragging about our incomes, but can we please stop saying this?! If he earns "over seven figures," that means he earns...eight figures, i.e., at least $10M per year. You probably meant he earns like $1.2M, which is definitely still seven figures. |
^^ +1
She's not the doctor |
SAHM PP sounds like a troll anyway. Anyone with any familiarity with the medical field knows attendings don’t make bank. It’s private practice physicians who make 7 figures. |
Not true at all. While the training years suck, we know several specialists in private practice making $500k+ working 40-45 hour weeks and only taking home call a weekend every other month. |
SAHM poster here. I just refer to attendings as physicians who have completed their training. And nit picking wordings on a message board is lame. So he makes seven figures and funds a nice lifestyle. But I helped pay off his student loan debt. But no matter what OP’s DD will pay for debt either way. If her husband pays the debt by himself it just means less money for the family unit. |
Attendings who move into hospital management/heads of department can absolutely make 7 figures. I worked at a big DC hospital until recently. They work like dogs for their money though. |
Well no. Accuracy in what you say is important. Especially in the case of a 9M difference… |