What the hell did I do wrong in life? How do some people manage to make a few millions a years and some us are stuck around 170k. And I went to a Top 20 college too..I don't have a law degree or an MBA maybe I shouldn't have studied engineering. |
Clearly if you married OP you’d be making a few mil a year. |
Again, the ego/confidence of a mediocre man is truly something to behold. |
Right, but OP is making this choice. Stay home or don’t. But complaining about lack of self actualization due to her own choices while living a life of luxury with supportive husband is cringe. |
You have an amazing husband.
No, I don’t think this generally but if he feels this way, that changes my opinion in this instance. |
100% |
I'm so glad that at the end of the day I will be able to say that my husband and I are both equally responsible for how our children turned out. |
You did the right thing. Being a working mom with a demanding job sucks. I would trade you in a heartbeat. |
Agreed. The comment was gross. Even more so because he's a CFO. He's not saving our country, curing cancer, etc. Being a successful CFO is fine, I'm a tax attorney so I know a ton of them, but I find it weird to act like having a stay at home wife is what enabled his greatness. He's a glorified CPA, which is a fine job, but come on. It just means his wife stays home so he can spend a ton of time working and making money. Which is pretty pathetic. |
If you marry a DCUM troll, you too can earn millions a year while she stays home! |
I think the problem is that OP isn't going to find a ton of people who feel like she does. (1) There are people who want to work and so they do. They would say to OP, just go get a job again. (2) There are people who don't want to work and hate that they do. They would say to OP, stop complaining, your life is amazing. (3) There are people who don't want to work and so they don't. They would say to OP, not working is the best, you're crazy to want anything else. (4) And there are going to be a few people who don't work but want to and they will understand. Otherwise, you're just going to get annoyed responses from (1)s, jealous responses from (2)s, and insecure responses from (3)s. OP did get a few (4)s who said they understand, and then the rest of the pages is just idiots being pedantic. |
I felt the same when my husband wanted me to stay home after our third child. I couldn't see making my life about just 'laundry and groceries". Fast forward 10 years, I was laid off and spent the teen years home w the kids. I didn't mind then bc I felt 'i had my career'.
Are you perhaps mourning your career? BtW I did not miss the job but missed having 'my money". It's complex. |
1. If OP had pounded away at her career for 60 hours a week she might instead lament not being an involved parent or something else.
2. The most interesting comment is that OP was worried about her college reunion and what people would think of her lack of a career. Vanity is worrying too much about what others think of you. If you’ve stayed close with your college circle, they understand your choices. If you haven’t stayed close to those people, who cares what they think? |
That’s not even the point of this thread. The question is… without OP would her H be less successful? Is she the reason he is successful? Does she get credit for his success. The obvious answer is no, but some need to feel they are the reason their H is successful for their own ego. It’s wildly bizarre. Sure it was a nice little quip her H said but we lie to our spouses all the time… like when I tell my H he’s just as hot as ever. |
Why is it acceptable for both parents working full time and kids being raised by nanny or daycare workers but if parents divide responsibilities by one holding home front and other income front, people say kids are not getting enough time from breadwinner. |