DH says his success is my success

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Each of your successes in each others.

You are a team.

Your H handled his pregnancy well

Yes, he managed the kitchen and younger kid well my third trimester, did more driving and grocery shopping and rearranged the kitchen in his own helter skelter way.
Team effort. Tag teaming.

You mean he ran the house, His house with his kids. He didn’t handle a pregnancy more than he handles chemo when you get cancer.

It’s amazing how women think men running their own house is going above and beyond.

Did more driving lol more not all of it just more.

Stop projecting and arguing with random posters. No one said what you’re claiming. The topic was team work and seamlessly tag teaming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Actually her husband may not have been capable of rising in the ranks if he had to attend his own children and home."

So nobody is successful at his company who is single, has no children, has a wife who works and has children?

That is not what I said. Some people are not capable of doing both jobs well. Some people can. That seems pretty objectively true to me. He might be one of those people who can attend to his home and rise up the corporate ladder. Not all people can.

Sure, but everybody can hire a cleaner. It’s really not that hard. People who make a fraction of his income, have cleaners.

You’re telling me that if he had to Higher cleaner instead of having us stay at her mom, he would not have been able to advance in his career.

Y’all are twisting yourself in pretzels trying to prove you have something to do with somebody else’s success.

A person with a fraction of his income hired a cleaner? Ok. Would he make a million per year while doing the daycare run?

For some of us, making a few million a year isn't hard. Sorry it's difficult for you.

[Anonymous]

My spouse joined the ranks of the idle upper middle class about 15 years ago, she now has the executive function of a seventh grader, Being taken care of is not good for your brain, you start looking for trouble and problems to solve where they’re really aren’t any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse joined the ranks of the idle upper middle class about 15 years ago, she now has the executive function of a seventh grader, Being taken care of is not good for your brain, you start looking for trouble and problems to solve where they’re really aren’t any.

You could swap for the women that complain about the husbands that drive them nuts. There is zero sense in staying with someone you hate, that goes for anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse joined the ranks of the idle upper middle class about 15 years ago, she now has the executive function of a seventh grader, Being taken care of is not good for your brain, you start looking for trouble and problems to solve where they’re really aren’t any.

While all goes well if women work, no mental health, marital, financial, parental issues whatsoever, no divorces or cheating either because everyone is too busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:"Actually her husband may not have been capable of rising in the ranks if he had to attend his own children and home."

So nobody is successful at his company who is single, has no children, has a wife who works and has children?

That is not what I said. Some people are not capable of doing both jobs well. Some people can. That seems pretty objectively true to me. He might be one of those people who can attend to his home and rise up the corporate ladder. Not all people can.

One of the people who CANNOT attend to home and rising up the ladder.

Every ladder is built different and every climber's endurance and circumstances are different.

[Anonymous]

A physician acquaintance took few months off to have a baby and had to take few more as baby has health issues, her physician husband says she isn't pulling her weight and need to contribute while he himself has no time for the toddler or the baby. Not everyone appreciates what they have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Each of your successes in each others.

You are a team.

Your H handled his pregnancy well

Yes, he managed the kitchen and younger kid well my third trimester, did more driving and grocery shopping and rearranged the kitchen in his own helter skelter way.
Team effort. Tag teaming.

You mean he ran the house, His house with his kids. He didn’t handle a pregnancy more than he handles chemo when you get cancer.

It’s amazing how women think men running their own house is going above and beyond.

Did more driving lol more not all of it just more.

Stop projecting and arguing with random posters. No one said what you’re claiming. The topic was team work and seamlessly tag teaming.

It’s pathetic how low your bar is for teamwork.

You really need to validate this so badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure you know where all the money is and how to access the accounts, and that you have access to sufficient funds to pay a very good lawyer up front should you ever are faced with your DH's idea of success has changed to include dumping the old for a new model.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't think his success is your success but it sounds like you chose to go the more traditional gender role route.

Personally I am not a fan of SAHP after the kids are in school because I do think both parents should be involved in a life other than raising children but I do get that some women like to be taken care of and just relax at home while their husband works. For those that aren't ambitious and just like luxuries and don't mind being child-like and dependent on others - this is the perfect life.

I would be embarrassed too to go to a reunion because a rich husband to me isn't my goal or what I see as success. To me that isn't the dream.

Wow you are stupid. I’m MORE busy taking care of the kids and all the household after they all went to school. You think I’m at home “relaxing” and being “taken care of”? I wish!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't think his success is your success but it sounds like you chose to go the more traditional gender role route.

Personally I am not a fan of SAHP after the kids are in school because I do think both parents should be involved in a life other than raising children but I do get that some women like to be taken care of and just relax at home while their husband works. For those that aren't ambitious and just like luxuries and don't mind being child-like and dependent on others - this is the perfect life.

I would be embarrassed too to go to a reunion because a rich husband to me isn't my goal or what I see as success. To me that isn't the dream.

Do you have kids yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:omg go away this is not a real problem. stop. you know it's not bc you made sure to brag extensively in your post. jfc. your real problem is not having any perspective on real issues and if you have time go and maybe volunteer somewhere and get some.

Well she should be embarrassed. It’s 2024X yet if a man turned up at reunion staying at home and living off his millionaire DW, he would be the laughingstock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't think his success is your success but it sounds like you chose to go the more traditional gender role route.

Personally I am not a fan of SAHP after the kids are in school because I do think both parents should be involved in a life other than raising children but I do get that some women like to be taken care of and just relax at home while their husband works. For those that aren't ambitious and just like luxuries and don't mind being child-like and dependent on others - this is the perfect life.

I would be embarrassed too to go to a reunion because a rich husband to me isn't my goal or what I see as success. To me that isn't the dream.

How anti-feminist can you get? I am going to guess you are young and childless...brain washed into some societal idea of individual success that has no base in reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:omg go away this is not a real problem. stop. you know it's not bc you made sure to brag extensively in your post. jfc. your real problem is not having any perspective on real issues and if you have time go and maybe volunteer somewhere and get some.

Well she should be embarrassed. It’s 2024X yet if a man turned up at reunion staying at home and living off his millionaire DW, he would be the laughingstock.

The pride you have just beams through your words. Do you happen to be young, single, and childless? I am seriously curious? Thanks