Ditto. I am 32. |
And we're ready to give the profile. (Yes, I watch too much Criminal Minds.)
Assuming you believe that you have to pay to attend a party, I'm guessing you also believe: - The starting time stated on the invitation is flexible by up to 4 hours - The location chosen by the host is debatable, you are always free to say it sucks, let's go somewhere else - The persons listed on the invitation are just a suggestion, everyone's welcome - Kids, of course, are always welcome, and appropriate food, drink and entertainment will be provided for them - All food on offer will not contain nuts, gluten, wheat, soy, dairy, fat, strawberries, seafood or whatever else you are allergic to/cutting back on/dislike this week - If beverages are provided, they will include the precise type, brand and quality you prefer - Even if you order an appetizer, the lobster, four glasses of the reserve and two desserts, everyone will split the check evenly |
12:13 - Agreed. Add: these people do NOT have parents! |
Jewish men are good husbands. |
"I've been to Olive Garden. It's essentially Italian fast food, totally appropriate for families and not at all special or celebratory for a kid free evening. "
Olive Garden food sucks the big one. |
The only time it is correct to assume that you would be going dutch is if you are in college/grad school/25, in which case it's normal because not many 25-yos can afford to host all of their friends.
Anything else is wrong. |
You are either a troll or a loon (i.e., your friends are informal and like pot lucks and Olive Garden but, you can't have them to your home because they will judge your furniture; you can host a home cooked brunch but, can't handle throwing out cake, wine, and cheese sticks).
Either way, I'd recommend against a party. Also, I hope you are a troll because anyone who has lived here three years and can only find the Olive Garden is just sad. |
I like these ideas. I also think because it is a group that doesn't know each other it's better to do something other than a sit down dinner. As for board games etc. at a party at home, I'm more likely to play the wii games or karaoke than board games but part of that is the idea I don't want to do an activity that is too involved and would want to be able to drop in and out of activities as well as conversations. Good luck. |
To the PP, are these close friends? I think if it is something you do all the time with a group of friends it may be no big deal. Sort of like the person you go out frequently enough to say, hey I have you this time, knowing the next time the person will cover your bill. That's a far cry from going out with people you don't know that well where you are not only "splitting" bill with the person that orders the extra appetizer and three drinks but you are covering the birthday person and as someone mentioned it would be awkward to not also include the spouse. It's not as though the person "hosting" will be doing the same thing when my husband's 40th birthday rolls around because we don't hang out like that. My family doesn't have a lot of money and my mom was one to say you make do with what you have. If OP wants a night out with friends that is dutch, then make it night out that isn't for DH birthday where people will feel obligated to pay for her meal and DH. If I didn't know someone that well I would wonder if it was just a way to get a night out on someone else's tab. If it is about getting people together to celebrate, as most people have mentioned they don't care if it is limited furniture, if it is Costco platters, if it is brunch, if it is cake and punch etc. the fact that you are using your time and money( whatever the budget) to graciously invite people that you may not know that well to celebrate is a big deal in a good way. As for potluck, I don't really cook so as long as someone has options that don't include cooking e.g. Drinks, dessert, salad etc., then I'm fine. |
Have a dessert and champagne party to celebrate your husband's birthday.
You can make a variety of desserts and get some champagne to toast. Get the sparkling wine at Trader Joe's -- they have some good ones which are not expensive. |
Depends on the language in the eVite. I see now that part of the problem is that OP and her DH are West Coasters. West Coasters are way less formal, don't do thank you notes, don't host dinner parties at their homes like Easterners. It's a culture/age/money clash. |
Um, that's ridiculous. I'm from the West Coast, and I think I'm the only person in my social circle who writes thank you notes (on personal stationary!), and dinner parties are actually the preferred get-together (dining al fresco in the beautiful weather). Anyway, OP, I have a friend who did something similar to what you initially planned recently (born and bred east coaster btw!) and it was a hit. Basically, the evite was for a "party" at her house where she served dessert and drinks. As for the "dinner" portion of the evening, there was a little note at the bottom of the invitation that said something like: " Before the party we'll be having drinks dinner at _________, if you want to join. The pre-fixe menu is $35.00. Please let me know if you want to attend and I'll add you to the reservation! Hope you can make it!" |
PP, that's a nice way to handle it. |
This is extraordinary! Eleven pages of mostly sound etiquette advice from presumably younger people! Miss Manners and I are leaping for joy. Special points to the west coaster who writes thank you notes on personal stationery. You must be from the bay area..... |
lol, no. Orange County if you can believe it |