I blame Adam Lanza's mother.

[Anonymous]

Playing the blame game already. How sad.

When will people start blaming the person who committed the crime, instead of everyone else? When are adults going to be held accountable for their own actions?

Nobody knows yet what was up with Adam Lanza. Clearly he was mentally unstable.. I cannot fathom anyone doing this without something going on. How much did his mother know? How much did he hide? Dangerous people don't always show their cards. Neighbors say he was quiet, etc. so maybe there were no obvious signs of what was really going on in his head.

This is a tragedy. There may never be real answers. Why did she have so many guns? Possibly because she was allowed to. Don't like it? Change it.

[Anonymous]

And remember how so many hated Ryan Lanza. Any Ryan Lanza, not even the brother of the shooter Ryan Lanza was hated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Playing the blame game already. How sad.

When will people start blaming the person who committed the crime, instead of everyone else? When are adults going to be held accountable for their own actions?

Nobody knows yet what was up with Adam Lanza. Clearly he was mentally unstable.. I cannot fathom anyone doing this without something going on. How much did his mother know? How much did he hide? Dangerous people don't always show their cards. Neighbors say he was quiet, etc. so maybe there were no obvious signs of what was really going on in his head.

This is a tragedy. There may never be real answers. Why did she have so many guns? Possibly because she was allowed to. Don't like it? Change it.

Because he was mentally unstable and even a court of law would not hold him accountable.

If you have crazy in your house--- don't keep multiple guns there.

We have been trying to change gun laws-- but dumb redneck fucks have gun lobbies.

[Anonymous]

and a hunting rifle. Not a big deal.

Way too early to pass judgement on the shooter's mother, but the M4 Bushmaster found at the scene is NOT a hunting rifle. It is a military grade assualt rifle, used by our infantry today, that is designed to kill people as efficiently as possible. It is a very big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I'm naive or a defendant's attorney, but just because the guns appear to have been registered in her name, does no one see any other scenario besides that she bought them?

Correct. I mean, one of the weapons had to be purchased in the 90s, maybe the father bought it and registered it the mothers name. Maybe the son bought it and illegally registered it in the mothers name. Just because they were legally registered, doesn't mean they were legally obtained or purchased.

Or is it just me that sees this.

Oh, and shame on fucking all of you blaming the victim. I assume you also blame people who are raped for wearing "inappropriate clothes"

[Anonymous]

OP, your judgment is uninformed. You don't know what his mother did that was appropriate or inappropriate. You just don't know.

Some families of disturbed individuals are negligent, others are on constant high alert, trying to contain damage, although they're limited in what they can do. In yet other instances, the families are dysfunctional. There might be one or two members who try to contain or prevent potential antisocial acts, but the other members work together to stymie constructive actions and enable the family member who's acting out. In many instances, there's very little that the responsible family members can legally do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't say that because I don't know her or the situation or so many facts about the situation yet. I marvel at all the people who apparently can pass judgement without knowing that either. I hope you are not the same people posting questions here about raising small kids with small problems . . .

God willing I never find myself as the single parent of an adult who needs mental help. I don't even know how you'd go about getting that in today's world.

+1000. Or the married parent. Or the brother or sister or spouse. Have know many people who've watched helplessly as very ill adult children self destructed, sometimes even taking others along. Help is very limited, and the law is not on your side.

[Anonymous]

Ten years ago my FIL died of a brain tumor. He was a life long gun owner. When it was clear he was not in his right mind, DH and I snuck out all of his guns while he was sleeping. Why? Because we felt responsible. We still own those guns, stored responsibly. If I ever felt that I, DH or our sons were mentally unstable they would be gone in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ten years ago my FIL died of a brain tumor. He was a life long gun owner. When it was clear he was not in his right mind, DH and I snuck out all of his guns while he was sleeping. Why? Because we felt responsible. We still own those guns, stored responsibly. If I ever felt that I, DH or our sons were mentally unstable they would be gone in a heartbeat.

Sorry about your FIL, but this reminds me, when I was in High School, my grandmother was carjacked in her back yard. My grandad saved the day with her pistol - no one was hurt. Grandmother's response was to remove all firearms from the house. Why? The incident woke her to the fact he was too old and feeble to safely handle a gun. They were both very lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shut the fuck up. If your son or daughter committed a crime should we blame you? Tragedy can strike anyone. No one is above it including you. And assigning blame before knowing all the facts reflects poorly on you.

+1000

I'm speechless that this thread even exists. OP, karma is coming for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shut the fuck up. If your son or daughter committed a crime should we blame you? Tragedy can strike anyone. No one is above it including you. And assigning blame before knowing all the facts reflects poorly on you.

+1000

I'm speechless that this thread even exists. OP, karma is coming for you.

I don't know about the karma, but OP you have no clue. Absolutely none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't say that because I don't know her or the situation or so many facts about the situation yet. I marvel at all the people who apparently can pass judgement without knowing that either. I hope you are not the same people posting questions here about raising small kids with small problems . . .

God willing I never find myself as the single parent of an adult who needs mental help. I don't even know how you'd go about getting that in today's world.

+1000. Or the married parent. Or the brother or sister or spouse. Have know many people who've watched helplessly as very ill adult children self destructed, sometimes even taking others along. Help is very limited, and the law is not on your side.

+1,000,000
I've watched helplessly as someone close to me self-destructed from mental illness. In this case, the mental condition did not materialize until mid-life.

In our society, there is virtually nothing you can do to help a mentally ill adult who does not want to help himself or herself. The system is broken, and it's heartbreaking. And then you have horrible human beings like OP who blame everyone around the mentally ill person.

OP, you know nothing about this woman or her situation. Why don't you just get out of your house and do something productive today instead of wallowing in misery and judging others without a ounce of human compassion.

[Anonymous]

OP, you bring up a good point. Even if you are pro NRA and feel very strongly that you have a right to own guns, but you have a mentally ill person living with you, would you be responsible enough to give up the guns?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shut the fuck up. If your son or daughter committed a crime should we blame you? Tragedy can strike anyone. No one is above it including you. And assigning blame before knowing all the facts reflects poorly on you.

+1000

I'm speechless that this thread even exists. OP, karma is coming for you.

N


You are right PP. No is to blame for this tragedy. Not the mother. Not the father. Not the killer because he may have had mental issues. Not society for failing to address those issues. Not any entity (govt, gun manufacturers, lobbyists) that assist people in ownership of guns for which the SOLE purpose is to effectively kill people.
Thank goodness no one is at fault so no one has to take responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Mother is to blame. Period. Shouldn't have guns in reach of unstable kid. There had to be warnings.