Yup. Or your private chef or assistant. |
OP here. Honestly, no. I probably should. We did talk about it a couple of months ago but not since then. We didn’t make a final decision about her going back to work until 4 months and she said she would rather stay home. |
A nanny and house keeper? She can go back to work and keep them, or stay at home and fire them.
What absurdity |
OP here. My wife doesn’t have PPD or anything of the sort. |
OP here. She decided staying home would be easier. She’s in healthcare and had a longer commute and worked with sick patients all day. She felt the stress of all that would be too much with 2 kids. |
Your wife is not your housekeeper. Your kids are cared for, right? If you have a specific issue about the work load division at home you can discuss it with her, but you’re going to sound like an absolute *ss to ask her to do more housework. |
I think you have zero idea of how much work it is to care for an infant and toddler. Why don't you stay at home for a few days and see how it is? You have no idea on how little time you have between dropping off kid at pre-school and then picking them up. You don't know if you baby is going to sleep or be fussy. If you can afford the cleaning person to come more often please help your wife out. |
Are you speaking for ALL women? This can't be so..I'm sure there is a lot of things that fall through the crack. |
Right now almost all of her effort is going to the kids, so I fail to see how she’s not being active with the kids or whatever. 6 months and 2.5 is pretty close in age, so less than a year from now you’re going to have two toddlers and that’s a whole nother level of hot mess. What’s the hours for the PT day care and the PT nanny? If the 2.5 year old is just in something like a 2-3 days a week, 4 hours per day church preschool, that doesn’t give her a lot of hours, especially with a baby at home also. Idk it just sounds to me like typical life at home with 2 little ones and your expectations are unrealistic. |
OP here. I work from home most days of the week. I go into the office 1-2 days a week, some weeks. I get home or come upstairs and start making dinner. If I’m not done working by 5, my wife will usually order dinner or make something quick. We eat, hang out as a family, and we start the bedtime routine. We bathe both kids, and I take infant and put him to bed. Then we hang out a little more with my oldest and I put him to bed ( sometimes he wants mom to do it). Then I will clean up from the day and my wife will usually shower during this time. We will watch tv together and then bed. |
OP here. I don’t even know that this means.. |
OP here. I never said she was. |
OP here. I’ve cared for them regularly on my own during the weekends and during the week when my wife had to go out of town for a family issue. Our nanny or I do daycare drop off/pickup of my oldest son. Our daycare is walking distance from our house. |
Your title is "Wife is not a good sham". Sham = pillowcase. |
Just curious, on a daily basis, how much time does your wife get away from both kids? Like where she’s actually alone? |