I agree that the child’s mother sounds difficult. But OP is focused on stirring the pot, causing drama, etc. And the term “baby mama” is indicative of lesser maturity on her part as well. |
Well, that’s why I’m here asking for advice about how to acknowledge her, isn’t it? I’m just not sure how any of this makes me immature. |
I’m lost. Could you please tell me how I’m the one causing drama and stirring the pot? |
She might be a little in-your-face, OP, but her need to meet you and talk in person is legitimate and should be respected. She is the mother of his child. The child interacts with you. She wants to make sure you are a safe person.
It appears you have your own insecurities and hang-ups about this, because you are not being reasonable right now. Why are you hiding from this woman, who is concerned for the welfare of her child? And stop reading negativity into everything she does. She did not give you gifts you appreciated. But she gave you something, and I don't think they were meant to be insulting at all. She wants to get to know you. Honestly, with your description, I'm more on her side than yours. |
I can’t get beyond feeling so bad for this poor child, who is dependent on immature idiots for survival. |
Baby mama is insulting. I think you're being ruder to her than she is being rude to you. |
Interesting. I would rather be called baby mama than the plethora of rude things she’s called me |
I’m not asking anyone to take my side! I’m asking for advice on how to respond to this woman who has disrespected me, called me names, and treats my partner badly yet says I should her friend for the sake of her child. |
And you got advice- grow up and talk to the mother of the child. You’re too immature to take the advice though, you’d rather pout. |
You really need to be told to say hello when she pulled up next to the car? Or to respond to her FB message that you were uber careful to make sure wasn’t marked as read? |
You lost me at ‘baby mama’, OP. Even if she’s not a model person, be the bigger person for the daughter. |
+ a million. You are loving the drama as recount every minute detail and try to analyze it on DCUM. You didn’t need to be at the exchange, if you and bf were adults you wouldn’t have made this another opportunity for drama. You would have stayed home. |
+1 |
Your boyfriend is including you inappropriately in his custody time with his daughter. You should not be picking up his kids at school on his custody time. He is their Dad and he is farming out childcare to you (probably unpaid). He should be offering custody time he can't use to his wife or alternatively paying for aftercare or a babysitter. Lots of men use their kids as proxies to make themselves look more attractive to prospective girlfriends. It makes them seem like "good guys". Then when the GF is drawn in, she is asked to do childcare and spend time building a relationship with the kid that makes it harder to break up. He is also inappropriately sharing info about conversations, emails, texts and social media exchanges between him and his wife about you with you. He is doing this to create drama - a common enemy (his wife) bonds you closer to him. If you want this kind of emotional manipulation to be the rest of your life, by all means keep seeing him, but go into it eyes wide open seeing him for the manipulator he is. |
The answer was probably in one of the posts you had deleted. |