It is important to address the issue of misinformation and emphasize the potential dangers associated with women having children past the age of 35. Here is a strong refutation, supported by statistics, to discourage the spread of misinformation: It is imperative to stop spreading misinformation and instead rely on scientific evidence and expert advice when discussing matters of reproductive health. Dismissing the risks associated with advanced maternal age is not only irresponsible but also potentially harmful. Allow me to provide you with compelling statistics that highlight the dangers of women having children past the age of 35: 1. Increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities: Scientific research consistently shows that the risk of chromosomal abnormalities, such as Down syndrome, significantly increases with maternal age. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), the risk of Down syndrome at age 35 is about 1 in 200, while at age 40, it becomes approximately 1 in 100, and by age 45, it rises to about 1 in 30. These statistics clearly demonstrate the substantial escalation in risk as women age. 2. Higher risk of pregnancy complications: Advanced maternal age is associated with a higher likelihood of experiencing various pregnancy complications. According to a study published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Canada, women aged 35 and older have an increased risk of gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, placenta previa, and premature birth. These complications can pose serious health risks to both the mother and the baby. 3. Decreased fertility and increased miscarriage risk: Women in their late 30s and beyond experience a decline in fertility. The ACOG reports that after the age of 35, a woman's chances of getting pregnant each month decrease significantly. Additionally, the risk of miscarriage also rises with advancing maternal age. According to a study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility, women aged 35-39 have a 20% chance of miscarriage, which increases to 35% for women aged 40-44. 4. Increased likelihood of pregnancy interventions: Advanced maternal age often necessitates additional medical interventions during pregnancy. Women over 35 are more likely to require assisted reproductive technologies, such as in vitro fertilization (IVF), to achieve pregnancy. These interventions can be physically and emotionally taxing, as well as financially burdensome. By spreading misinformation, you are disregarding the well-established scientific knowledge and putting women and their potential children at risk. It is crucial to prioritize evidence-based information and encourage individuals to consult healthcare professionals who can provide accurate guidance based on each person's unique circumstances. I implore you to stop spreading dangerous misinformation and instead advocate for responsible and informed discussions that prioritize the health and well-being of women and their children. Science offers us invaluable insights that should guide our decisions and actions for the betterment of society as a whole. |
Well, on the other side of things, I have a child with significant SN and I had DC when I was only 26. We went on to have a few more children after DC and my last at 37 and DC is our only child with SN. I have friends who have 3 children all with SN. There's no way to know beforehand, you get what you get. |
Every time you have a baby it’s a gamble. I’m on my fourth and am now 37. You truly never know what can happen. |
I had mine at 35 and 38. You do the blood test at 8-10 weeks and then the scan at 11-13 and it gives you an idea. You can’t screen for autism which is a big deal imo. Sounds like a third isn’t for you. |
nothing you said contradicts or adds insight to what i said. every woman descends from a female ancestor who had 12+ kids. having a kid at 35+ is extremely NORMAL and you are not contributing anything anyone doesn't know to this conversation. |
ChatGPT is great for a lot of things but not really persuasive essays
My advice would be, look up statistics on the things you most worry about, and then you and your husband can evaluate the level of risk and your respective tolerance for risk. Maybe consult with your OB or a genetic counselor. On the one hand, risks are elevated. On the other hand, most people will not experience those outcomes. It's a very personal decision and hopefully both of you will end up on the same page. |
Just avoid alcohol. Even small amounts can cause issues. |
Talk to your OB/GYN about genetic risks. Ask questions until you have your questions answered. Do not take DCUM as if it were a set of medical experts. |
Avoiding any alcohol is excellent advice for anyone pregnant. Even if DC comes out and seems normal, one will never know how much better the DC might have been if not exposed to fetal alcohol. Fetal alcohol syndrome can cause obvious severe issues or can cause milder non-obvious impairments. |
A 1 in 200 chance of Down syndrome is a 99.5 percent chance of no down syndrome. Most babies born at 35 will still be perfectly healthy, in line with anecdotes. |
I would talk with your husband (and yourself via a therapist, confidant, or pastor) about how you feel about termination for medical reasons at both early and later stages. Testing is extremely accurate now such that you would know pretty early about almost all chromosomal issues. That said you kid could be colicky, have adhd, odd, or any other personality issues that will obviously affect your family dynamic and older children. Or they could be the light of everyone and bring everyone closer together. But If your dh is worried and hesitant I would be reluctant to add a third.
I had a surprise pregnancy at 45. My dh was thrilled and did not want me to tfmr but I was prepared to consider that depending on the issue. My kids have become more independent and were always close to eachother and their dad so that has worked out while I am in baby mode and have had to detach from them more. But both parents have to be all in obviously. |
As someone who has a younger sibling with significant disabilities that were not accurately predicted in womb (my mom was 35), it is devastating for the family. My parents have sacrificed a lot; they never can go anywhere on their own, their life fully revolves around taking care of my sibling, and sibling will live with them lifelong. Once they pass, I know I will have sibling move in with me. If you’re concerned about the risk at all — and the risk does increase the older you are — I would not do it. If you ended up with a child that had significant needs, that will be very hard on your marriage, your life, and your other kids. Of course there are many people who ended up with healthy and happy kids post 35, but the question is not whether it’s possible, it’s whether you’re willing to risk it. |
Wow you know OPs chance of having a baby with Down Syndrome is 1 in 400. Also, do you know people with Down Syndrome generally live fairly "normal" lives until they get early on set Alzheimers in their 50s, so perhaps this concern for siblings is over blown. The fear mongering of Down Syndrome and the selfishness of people who will not have supposedly perfect kids is astonishing. You know you all have a 1 in 34 chance of having a child with Autism today - can we screen to kill all of these kids too asap? |
Tell you what - you pay for all the medical interventions and treatments a Downs child I could have will need and then we can talk. |
I’m not willing to risk it. |