Partner said I’m not super attractive

[Anonymous]

My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been together? Unless you have kids together, you should get out. This isn’t going to get better, and it’s going to lead to resentment on both sides.

[Anonymous]

You both sound shallow.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been married for ten years and this wouldn’t phase me one bit lol.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like an attention seeking child.

[Anonymous]

What an insensitive thing for a man to say. I would dump him, honestly.

[Anonymous]

He loves you in many ways. WHy focus on one?

Think about owning a car. No car has all the qualities you want 100%. The sports car has no cargo space, the minivan handles poorly, the SUV uses too much gas, etc. So what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both sound shallow.

I don't think it's shallow for a woman to not want her partner to say to her that "I don't find you super attractive".

I'm not super attractive, neither is DH. But, I would never say that to him, or vice versa. DH says I'm beautiful all the time, but I know he knows that I'm not super attractive.

Someone who says that to a person that they supposedly love is just mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

Maybe you could tell him a few things you don't like...too short? Too ugly whatever! Then tell him you are breaking up Too mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He loves you in many ways. WHy focus on one?

Think about owning a car. No car has all the qualities you want 100%. The sports car has no cargo space, the minivan handles poorly, the SUV uses too much gas, etc. So what?

Her partner has no discretion. There must be other ways in which he also is stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

oh lawd. you are over reacting.

[Anonymous]

He sounds insecure and manipulative. He wants to damage your self-esteem. Must be working because you're questioning your attraction. Leave before he gains more control over you.

[Anonymous]

I would break up.

There are times whenl honesty is not the best policy. Partners should really like their partners' looks and keep quiet about flaws and imperfections.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He is definitely more attractive than I am. He gets hit on quite a bit. I’m cute but definitely not hot. Im also the least attractive of all his girlfriends.

It just hurts me. I don’t want to with a partner who feels they don’t love all of me.

[Anonymous]

It was very insensitive of him to say those things. I would be upset too! Is everything else great in the relationship?