How to respond (if at all) to bf's high conflict baby mama

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound immature as well. I'd recommend getting out of the relationship.

This. Grow up OP. If you want a relationship with this man then be an adult and address this woman. You can say that you are aware of things she has said about her and do not wish to build a friendship with her.

But if you want to be in this child’s life, then get over yourself and quit being so immature.

I don’t believe I’m immature for not willing to meet with someone who has called me a “f****** b**ch” among other disrespecting terms, verbally abuses my partner when given the opportunity, talks shit about me on social media, and will not respect a single boundary that my partner has put up out of respect for me.

To be honest I will never understand how it became a bad thing to set boundaries for yourself, and demand respect in order for the other to receive your respect. Since when did it become so bad to simply ask for respect from somebody in order to give it to them in return. Some people responding to you on here I guarantee are baby mamas themselves giving input based on how their sad lives are going.😂. Since when did we stop using the saying “in order to get respect you have to give it”. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound immature as well. I'd recommend getting out of the relationship.

This. Grow up OP. If you want a relationship with this man then be an adult and address this woman. You can say that you are aware of things she has said about her and do not wish to build a friendship with her.

But if you want to be in this child’s life, then get over yourself and quit being so immature.

I don’t believe I’m immature for not willing to meet with someone who has called me a “f****** b**ch” among other disrespecting terms, verbally abuses my partner when given the opportunity, talks shit about me on social media, and will not respect a single boundary that my partner has put up out of respect for me.

To be honest I will never understand how it became a bad thing to set boundaries for yourself, and demand respect in order for the other to receive your respect. Since when did it become so bad to simply ask for respect from somebody in order to give it to them in return. Some people responding to you on here I guarantee are baby mamas themselves giving input based on how their sad lives are going.😂. Since when did we stop using the saying “in order to get respect you have to give it”. Seriously. I would have to side with the people who are saying you either deal with it or you don’t. I’m in a relationship as well where my boyfriend has two separate baby mamas, literal pain💀, same thing where my name has come out of her mouth, and she’s never even heard my voice before, and the drama will absolutely never end and basically it’s just up to you to determine what you want/will to put up with.

[Anonymous]

20+ year paralegal here.... for all those saying BM has a right to meet GF, actually no she doesn't. And the courts could look badly on BM being pushy, noisy, & disrespectful about the issue as a sign the mother is unstable mentally or emotionally, residual if dad has a decent lawyer. It's harassment & it's not healthy for the child to see her mother violating boundaries & making the potential stepmother so uncomfortable. If there is a legit concern about GF being unfit to be around child, BM could contact CPS. But other than that it's only making BM look bad & like she's trying to control dads time with child or use child to interfere in dads personal life. As a parent the best thing you can do is keep your distance from the other parents dating life. Unless there's a valid concern about the new person being unfit, stay out if it. I've never seen this kind of situation help the other parent in court. It takes sway from the judges view of your credibility & stability if you don't respecect boundaries of the other parent.

[Anonymous]

Do not listen to the people (most likely bitter baby mamas) who are telling you you’re immature. It’s 100% of for you to have boundaries. Her being the bio mom does not make it okay for her to treat you the way she has.
I will say that if you intend to stay in this man and therefor his child’s life, I do think you need to reach out and be very frank with her about exactly why you are taking the stance you are taking. Just being you are not the bio mom does not mean you deserve to be in their lives any less or that you should make yourself small just to make her happy. That’s a lie that bitter baby mamas try to make society believe.

[Anonymous]

You sound like the high conflict one.

Everything she’s done sounds a lot more mature than what you’re doing. Also, pay attention. Your boyfriend thinks it’s “crazy” that his child’s mother should know who is spending time with her own child. You’re just the girlfriend but imagine you have a kid with him and he’s telling you that what his new chick does with your kid is none of your business.

Enjoy the sh*tshow that is going to be your life!