DS is saying he won't visit me if i move.

[Anonymous]

My ex and i currently live in Indiana but i have to move to Florida for employment reasons and my son is insisting that he won't travel that far for visitations, He's 13 so forcing him is out of the question, How would you handle this?

[Anonymous]

I’d turn down the offer. How much time do you spend with your child now?

[Anonymous]

He’s a child. It’s not his choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d turn down the offer. How much time do you spend with your child now?

About half of every week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d turn down the offer. How much time do you spend with your child now?

About half of every week.

What do you imagine you could realistically get for visitation in Florida?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d turn down the offer. How much time do you spend with your child now?

About half of every week.

What do you imagine you could realistically get for visitation in Florida?

school breaks.

[Anonymous]

I’d never in a million years move that far from my child, so that’s a non-issue. There’s no “have to for a job,” I’d get a different job. I’d work at Starbucks if I had to. You couldn’t pay me $10 million to live that far from my child.

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you want to stay close to your son? Even if he did agree to visit you - there would be several weeks you wouldn't see him due to school. I wouldn't accept a job that would keep me from seeing my child.

[Anonymous]

OP can’t you see that what your child is trying to say is that it will break his heart if you leave him? The only threat he can come up with in his kid mind is refusing to see you there. It sounds like you expected him to react like an adult and he’s not one. If you go you will never get these last few years of his childhood back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d never in a million years move that far from my child, so that’s a non-issue. There’s no “have to for a job,” I’d get a different job. I’d work at Starbucks if I had to. You couldn’t pay me $10 million to live that far from my child.

+100. I would NEVER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP can’t you see that what your child is trying to say is that it will break his heart if you leave him? The only threat he can come up with in his kid mind is refusing to see you there. It sounds like you expected him to react like an adult and he’s not one. If you go you will never get these last few years of his childhood back.

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Poor little guy.

[Anonymous]

You travel to him.

[Anonymous]

I would handle it by finding another job and not moving across the country from my child! Seriously, that’s not an option.

[Anonymous]

Agree with others. You should NOT MIVE AWAY. period. See your son through high school THEN you may move.

[Anonymous]

It’s a mistake to move. He’s telling you that in the way a 13 yr old does. Don’t do it.