DS is saying he won't visit me if i move.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

Police station transfers are not because of the risk of child abuse. It’s the risk a spouse will be violent with the other spouse. Overwhelmingly male problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

That means No. The men are more frequently abusers but less frequently parents.

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Anonymous wrote:You want to move to Florida and employment reasons are an excuse.

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OP just wants to sit on the beach and not have to worry about having a kid at all. Probably won't tell anyone that he even is a parent. Gets to live an entirely childfree life, meanwhile the kid is at home wondering what's wrong with them since parent wouldn't stay. You just know this poor kid is going to be f***ed up and have abandonment issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the f*** do people even bother having children if you'll abandon them at the first chance you get?

There are people crying on this board because they can't have children and here are parents just willingly throwing them away. Disgusting.

I mean, if OP is homeless, it would hard for his child to visit him.

If OPs story is true he’s eligible for unemployment.

Unemployment does not give enough money to cover rent, let alone utilities, toiletries, food (before you say food stamps they are meant to be a supplement, not to cover the cost of food), etc. And if you work even five hours they immediately lower the amount of unemployment you get.

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Is it an option to rent out room(s) in your house to have more of a financial cushion so that you could pick up anything local and still pay bills while you search for something better?

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You can go but then you travel to him for the breaks. It is not fair otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

Police station transfers are not because of the risk of child abuse. It’s the risk a spouse will be violent with the other spouse. Overwhelmingly male problem.

This has nothing to do with this tread but either parent can be violent to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

Police station transfers are not because of the risk of child abuse. It’s the risk a spouse will be violent with the other spouse. Overwhelmingly male problem.

This. It happened in our family. STBX was threatening to kill the wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

That means No. The men are more frequently abusers but less frequently parents.

The majority of cases in child welfare are female head of household. There are the statistics. Google them. Parents are the majority of the abusers, majority of the head of households are women for child welfare.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I've been looking for other jobs in the area since i found out that the company i work for is going out of business but i haven't gotten any calls from the places I've applied to, If i can't get a job in the area within the next 2 months i won't be able to make my house payments, I have been offered a job in Florida by a relative and i am treating it as a last resort but so far it's the only thing I've found.

I don't envy your position. You need to pay your bills. The same thing happened to my FIL. If that is the only job you can find, you take it and then travel to see your son on his breaks. I'm sorry you are in this difficult position and hope you find another job to keep you near your so.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the f*** do people even bother having children if you'll abandon them at the first chance you get?

There are people crying on this board because they can't have children and here are parents just willingly throwing them away. Disgusting.

I mean, if OP is homeless, it would hard for his child to visit him.

If OPs story is true he’s eligible for unemployment.

Unemployment does not give enough money to cover rent, let alone utilities, toiletries, food (before you say food stamps they are meant to be a supplement, not to cover the cost of food), etc. And if you work even five hours they immediately lower the amount of unemployment you get.

Right, but OP would also be eligible to recalculate child support, based on unemployment. So unemployment plus child support plus savings while OP keeps looking for a job that pays more than unemployment.

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I would not go on unemployment if I had an alternative. The gap looks bad on a resume and it is always easier to find a job when you have one. The Florida job does not have to be a permanent solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the f*** do people even bother having children if you'll abandon them at the first chance you get?

There are people crying on this board because they can't have children and here are parents just willingly throwing them away. Disgusting.

I mean, if OP is homeless, it would hard for his child to visit him.

If OPs story is true he’s eligible for unemployment.

Unemployment does not give enough money to cover rent, let alone utilities, toiletries, food (before you say food stamps they are meant to be a supplement, not to cover the cost of food), etc. And if you work even five hours they immediately lower the amount of unemployment you get.

Right, but OP would also be eligible to recalculate child support, based on unemployment. So unemployment plus child support plus savings while OP keeps looking for a job that pays more than unemployment.

Most judges will not recalculate child support.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the f*** do people even bother having children if you'll abandon them at the first chance you get?

There are people crying on this board because they can't have children and here are parents just willingly throwing them away. Disgusting.

I mean, if OP is homeless, it would hard for his child to visit him.

If OPs story is true he’s eligible for unemployment.

Unemployment does not give enough money to cover rent, let alone utilities, toiletries, food (before you say food stamps they are meant to be a supplement, not to cover the cost of food), etc. And if you work even five hours they immediately lower the amount of unemployment you get.

Right, but OP would also be eligible to recalculate child support, based on unemployment. So unemployment plus child support plus savings while OP keeps looking for a job that pays more than unemployment.

Most judges will not recalculate child support.

1. That’s not true, even in the DC area, but
2. I’m sure you just happen to know all about the family court system in Indiana.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a Police station and see a lot of custody exchanges. I got to know this Dad and his kid over a few years of weekend exchanges and one day they were both in here just bawling… turns out the mom was taking him to FL also because of work. Dad and kid both devastated. Dad only saw him on school breaks after that. I don’t know what happened with him and his ex but he loved his kid and his kid loved him. Broke me just watching……..
If you have any kind of choice OP, don’t move.

Maybe Dad shouldn't have been such a shi!tty parent that exchanges needed to be done at the police station. This doesn't seem like a loss!

Maybe mom was the sh*tty parent and insisted the exchanges be there OR dad did them there because mom was sh*tty. It was sh*tty of her to move the kid so far away from Dad. She should have stayed or left the kid with dad.

It's unusual for a woman to be violent. Odds are the father was. Without him, the son has a fighting chance.

If you look at child welfare statistics it's not unusual at all. You have some odd beliefs. In this situation there is no proof or statement about dad being violent.

You disagree that men are more violent than women? Mmkay.

Yes, for child welfare. Most cases are by women as they are the head of household.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetrators-in-child-abuse-cases-in-the-us-by-sex/

This post demonstrates a tenuous grasp of statistics, and that's being kind.