Why 50/50? My Attorney Saying 50/50 isn’t likelh

[Anonymous]

I’m confused by all the posts saying 50/50 custody is default. My attorney said since I do all the childcare/doctors/etc worse case is every other weekend for the other parent. Can someone explain the discrepancy?

Is it because in the 50/50 case there are two working parents who split childcare already? I am a SAHP, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Different families have different arrangements. Many fathers are comfortable with every 2nd weekend custody plus communication during the week.
Other fathers are comfortable and able to be at home with the kid for 50/50.

[Anonymous]

It depends what you and ex want. Do you both want 50/50? Then voila.

[Anonymous]

Depends on where you live and what you both do for work. Most SAH parents have to go back to work, and agree to 50-50. Dads are not regulated to only seeing their kids every other weekend and two weeks in the summer.

[Anonymous]

Ask your attorney what will happen if your ex won’t agree to it. Do you want a protracted court battle? Sure you could get more than 50% but at what cost?

[Anonymous]

When your stbx sees the difference in child support with 50/50, is that likely to sway him?

[Anonymous]

The parents can decide on whatever they want if they agree, but generally speaking if one parent wants fifty percent custody, that parent will generally get it.

[Anonymous]

Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

That doesn't work. You can't force an unwilling co-parent to take 50% custody. I know one person who tried that, and her ex moved out of state and became even less involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

That doesn't work. You can't force an unwilling co-parent to take 50% custody. I know one person who tried that, and her ex moved out of state and became even less involved.

Could work as reverse paychology on some of these guys.

[Anonymous]

You can get ahead faster in both work and dating by going for 50/50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

Divorce lawyer here. I don’t think I have EVER seen a parent push for 50/50 when the other parent wants less…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

That doesn't work. You can't force an unwilling co-parent to take 50% custody. I know one person who tried that, and her ex moved out of state and became even less involved.

Yes you can. Most men are not going to move that’s an insane outlier.

Either way OP will get more than 50/50 because most men don’t want custody.

[Anonymous]

Is your exh willing and able to pay you to sah or do you have family money. Most dads fight for 50/50 because they want to pay less child support. If they ask for it they will get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men don't want to see their children.

My friend who is a divorce lawyer says the new thing (last 15 years) with women is forcing their H's to take the kids 50/50, instead of fighting for more custody to maximize child support, but that's because most women she represents have their own money. Also, they sincerely want their ex's to be part of their children's lives so they force it through the courts.

Divorce lawyer here. I don’t think I have EVER seen a parent push for 50/50 when the other parent wants less…

It’s definitely happening with women who are high earners and sick of their h’s being absent.

How many wealthy women do you have as clients?