One of my best friends has had multiple episodes of cancer despite having four children. Pregnancy is not a health neutral. |
Yes, my aunt had six kids and died of breast cancer at 60. Cancer reduction risk on a population level doesn't necessarily translate to an individual level based in other factors. |
DP. Middle child/first girl here. I was maternal too, and that made things WORSE because adults felt even more entitled to take advantage and neglect. I love when the first girl is “the difficult one.” |
You're gross and an a-hole. I have more kids than a friend and don't have this issue. They do. It's largely genetics and how your delivery went. |
+1 Oftentimes pelvic floor issues don’t manifest until after menopause too, so I wouldn’t be so quick to gloat. |
You had one child too many. You have problems. |
+1 such an immature response. Like a pp said, wait until you get a little older. |
Breeder fetishist who wants more subsistence workers to enrich the capital owner class. |
If you can't fields your own baseball team, you are a failure as a family. |
FSA or FAS? |
I do home health caregiving and have cared for disabled women from midlife to very elder years. I’ve seen a lot of prolapsing uteri in my years - it’s amazing the pelvic floor issues many mothers endure for decades as one of the prices of motherhood. Women who don’t have the issues have often no idea and little compassion for what other women suffer with.
The more awful stuff I’ve seen over the years, the happier I’ve been about skipping that rodeo and not risking my pelvic floor, risking urinary and fecal continence, impaired sexual function, chronic pain/neuropathy, etc. I guess I understand why nobody tells young women this stuff either in health class or in the ladies coffee klatsch. Who wants to talk about the horrors that can happen and which can persist for a lifetime? Many more women might choose not. |
I think it's good to talk about the impact of pregnancy and childbirth on women's bodies. It's real and gets largely ignored in the way many aspects of women's health get ignored, and that can make it an unpleasant surprise for women, or a source of shame and embarrassment. It should be neither. That said, talking about these things using words like "horrors" or acting like these things are grotesque or that women are permanently ruined by childbirth does not actually help. It swings too far in the other direction -- the goal should not be to try and scare women out of having kids. We need to talk about these aspects of pregnancy/childbirth in order to help women understand these are normal, and to get the medical community to provide better treatments and support to women. If you do not want children, I fully support you in that choice. But many women *do* want children. Trying to scare them straight by acting like the common, normal consequences to childbirth are a disgusting outcome to be avoided at all costs is not as feminist as you seem to think it is. |
My mom had ten siblings. They all attended college and had good lives but I don't think that it's as easy now to "put yourself through school" as it used to be. Of all those children, none had more than three kids themselves. |
I'm the oldest of four. It wasn't easy but I don't think I would have been happier if I were an only...my parents were pretty intense so spreading out their attention helped. I wouldn't want that many kids myself but I know several friends and relatives with 3-5 kids who seem happy. What I care about is what policies Carney supports to help people with larger families. Does he want more WIC and home visiting? Medicaid for a year or two after birth to reduce maternal mortality and postpartum depression? Elimination of TANF household limits? Restructure the eitc so it doesn't max out at 3 kids? Daycare subsidies? Caregiver credits for social security? |
So I’m guessing, not great? |