This Weekend's Most Active Threads

Today I'll look at the most active threads over the weekend. The leader in both number of replies and number of views was a thread titled, "Which of the T20 schools have the least driven, intense, goal-oriented students?" and posted in the "College and University Discussion" forum. The original poster explains that her child is a freshman at a T15 school but finds that the seriousness and intensity of the student body creates an atmosphere with little fun. As the title suggests, the original poster is asking about top schools which have less driven students. Many of the replies point out that students don't get into top colleges or universities without being fairly intense and driven. As such, that's the sort of student you find there. Others provided suggestions, but that led to debates about whether those schools were really in the top 20. Eventually the thread turned to focus almost entirely on the admission and transfer rates of various institutions.

A thread titled, "Why are so many millennials in sexless marriages?" and posted in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum was second in number of replies and third in number of views. As always with threads from this forum, I'll caveat this by saying the thread may get removed due to policies of our ad networks concerning "adult content". The original poster links to an article about a recent survey showing that 25.8% of married millennials experienced "problems with sexual desire" or what the article termed "sexless marriages". This was over twice the percentage of Gen Z and somewhat higher than Gen X. I've written before that I detest generalizations based on generations and I think this one is particularly spurious. As the very first response points out, "If they did this survey 20 years ago, the results would have been similar but the generation names would have changed." Countless threads in the relationship forum support this point. At any rate, threads about sexless marriages never go well in the forum and suspect this one, if not already a train wreck, is probably very close to a collision. But, I haven't read to find out.

A thread that was second in number of views but only fifth in number of replies was posted in the "Family Relationships" forum and titled, "MIL walked in on me napping, DS on iPad...". This thread may have ranked higher in replies but I removed several inappropriate trollish posts. The original poster describes taking a nap while her six-year-old played with his iPad. During this time, the original poster's mother-in-law arrived and, having the door's key code, entered to find the original poster napping. This apparently has become a big issue with the mother-in-law who repeatedly brings it up. Several posters sided with the original poster while others suggested being more tolerant because the mother-in-law provides help to the family such as walking their dog. The thread also got hijacked by an argument about the original poster's quality as a parent, something about which some responders had a low opinion.

A thread in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum was fourth in both number of replies and number of views. Titled, "AITA - Bridesmaid Dress Drama", the original poster describes a bit of drama surrounding her upcoming wedding. She has chosen a dress for the bridesmaids that costs $200 and one of the women says that she can't afford the dress and wants to find a cheaper substitute. The original poster wonders if she is unreasonable to oppose that suggestion. I haven't read this thread other than to check a few pages and it looks like posters have offered various opinions both in support of an opposing the original poster's position. Some responses argue that friendship is more important than the wedding and, therefore, the original poster should be more accommodating. Others have the opinion that mismatched bridesmaids' dresses look terrible and will result in disappointing photos. I personally have no opinion and, once again, am surprised at which topics draw interest from our users.