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The two most active threads over the weekend were the thread about DCPS's release of PARCC scores and the thread about Arlington County Schools closing Nottingham Elementary School. I've written about both of those already, so I'll start with the third most active thread over the weekend which was titled, "Wife is super rigid about showing up on time" and was posted in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that his wife has always been strict about arriving on time to events. She believes that arriving late demonstrates a lack of respect for others' time. The original poster then goes on to describe a recent incident in which the couple, along with their three-year-old daughter were preparing to go to dinner at the original poster's in-laws home. The three-year-old began to engage in typical three-year-old behavior which delayed them. When the original poster's wife noticed that it was the time that they had planned to leave and their daughter was still not ready, she walked out of the house telling the original poster that she would take one car in order to be on time and he should come in the other car with their daughter when they were ready. In the original poster's opinion, it would have been alright to have been a few minutes late in this instance and he asks whether his wife is too rigid. As far as I can tell, the original poster did not provide any further input into this thread and may not have even read the responses. Most posters agreed that the wife is acting very rigid. However, several of them offered potential explanations that excuse the behavior. Some posters suggested the wife might have anxiety that causes her to want to be on time. Others suggested that the original poster, either being habitually late or by not always carrying his parental weight, might have triggered her. A few posters sided with the wife, agreeing that being on time is important. The thread eventually veered off of talk of the original incident and simply became a discussion of the importance of being on time. On that topic, posters were very divided. A number of posters described their frustration with those who arrive late to things and, like the original poster's wife, consider being late to be disrespectful of others' time. Other posters argue that being a few minutes late is normal and acceptable. Some posters even argue that being exactly on time is rude with one poster saying that she dislikes people arriving exactly on time to her home. Another poster consulted Emily Post about this, but there is still disagreement even about her advice. She says that it is rude to arrive early or more than 15 minutes late.