Tuesday's Most Active Threads

The most active thread yesterday was titled, "DH thinks my low sex drive is not the norm because of his lack of experience with women." and posted in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster explains that her husband only had one long term relationship prior to her. They've been married for 10 years and are in their early 60s. The original poster's sex drive has diminished and the couple is only intimate about once a month. The original poster's husband believes this is not normal and would prefer a greater frequency. Many of those responding agree with the original poster that sex drives decline after menopause. But, as is always the case with this type of discussion on DCUM, there are posters eager to proclaim that despite their advanced ages and lengthy marriages, they have the libidos of teenagers and sex lives of rabbits. The other certainty of this type of thread is that posters will show up to argue that husbands whose sexual desires are not fulfilled are justified in cheating. So, of course, there is a debate about that in the thread.

The second most active thread was posted in the "College and University Discussion" forum and was titled, "uni. prof, ask me anything". The original poster is a university professor in the humanities field with 20 years of experience at a school with a strong undergraduate program. I haven't read the entire thread but from the posts I did read, it looks like the original poster expected to encounter lots of trolls and brought his A game for dealing with them. The thread might be worth reading just to see his troll beat downs. Toward the beginning of the thread it looks like the most common questions involved relationships between students and professors. But latter a wide range of topics were addressed. As often happens in this type of thread, posters came along who wanted to hog the spotlight for themselves and started answering questions themselves and challenging the original poster. But, by the time this happened the thread was well underway.

Third was a thread titled, "Tips for leaving the house over the holidays" and posted in the "Off-Topic" forum. The original poster says that for the first time she is going on vacation and taking the dog so the house will be empty and she wants to make sure she is not forgetting any tips regarding what to do to prepare the house. I thought the original poster already had a pretty extensive list of things to do, but it did turn out that she had forgotten to stop her newspaper delivery. A few posters provided additional detailed suggestions for things to do. This led to debates about the necessity of some of the suggestions. Some posters thought that anyone with common sense would know what to do and castigated the original poster for asking such a basic question. But, given the lengths to which some posters appear to go before leaving their home on vacation, there are a range of practices. So, the answer is not as simple as it might have first appeared.

Fourth yesterday was another thread in the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. This one was titled, "Found husband drunk texting women on Tinder, again". The original poster didn't provide much information beyond the title other than that her husband is 34 years old and has cheated before. In a follow-up post, she says that they don't have children. The original poster wants to know what to do. Anyone with even cursory knowledge of the DCUM relationship forum knows the answer that will be coming, and sure enough the very first response suggested finding a divorce lawyer. Beyond the almost universal agreement that the original poster should divorce, there are repeated warnings not to have children with the man because things would only get worse. This thread is notable for the consistency of the responses with all that I saw in agreement. Basically, the thread consists of advice to divorce and exhortations not to have children repeated over and over again.