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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New Poster here. Fat is not healthy.  And we are a healthy family. We are not super thin, but we are in no way fat.  Give it another month, then try again with a rematch.

can she keep up with the kids? [/quote]

I'm fat (size 16-18).  And I can run a half marathon, have zero health problems at 45 years old, and can definitely keep up with my kids.  [/quote]

You are demonstrating exactly why diet is key here- you can't outrun the fork.  And people with obesity were often raised to favor less healthy food, in portions that stimulate weight gain. Overweight people eat more because they eat more- their appetite adjusts to their intake so that their body perceives they need a certain amount.
 
And as social animals, we take cues off each other. We dish up plates in roughly equal portions, eat similar quantities, etc so when you dine with overweight people, you tend to eat more.  This is why entire countries tend toward being lean or bulky- we influence each other, and obesity is a social disease.

For me, it's more than role modeling for the kids. It's also a check on myself. I don't want to gain weight, and I do things that help moderate my intake.  It's not easy to stay thin when you're constantly given large portions at restaurants, there are treats at work, drinks on the weekends, etc. All of this has to be effectively managed. And having all adults on the same page about food choices helps. So the hostility isn't just "fat shaming" but rather it is self protection against catching obesity.  [/quote]

Well, I've officially read the most ridiculous thing I will read all month.

My best friend from high school is morbidly obese.  She was overweight throughout high school, became obese in college, and then became morbidly obese after kids.  She and I lived together on and off for about 4 years in total.  She ate such a healthy diet and walked every single day we lived together unless she was taking an exercise class.  She didn't drink alcohol at all, she ate a varied and mostly vegetarian diet.  Once in a blue moon we would buy Oreos and eat them on a Friday night.  Or we'd make a cake for a special occasion and she'd have a piece.  She did NOT overeat any more than any thin person does.  To this day when I spend time with her and her family I am impressed by the healthy foods she and her family consume (and her kids are unfortunately overweight in their early teen years).

so maybe...just maybe....being fat isn't because you are weak.  or because you have a "social disease" but because humans have a variety of shapes and sizes that our genetics sometimes dictate.  Obviously there are lots and lots of overweight and obese people with terrible dietary habits.  but I guess I think there are also a ton (pun intended) of thin young women who eat terribly and are still thin because they are young and active.  When they are 40 they will be overweight if they don't change their habits.

What do you want though?  You want an active person who demonstrates healthy eating habits?  Screen for that and ignore their physical appearance.  Otherwise you're really a pretty gross person.
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