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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To clarify, I'm the poster who had a candidate tell me that a host family offered $250.  We found her application and thought she seemed perfect.  We exchanged some emails and skyped.  She seemed very keen and we offered her a match.  She didn't write back for a day and then wrote back telling me that she really liked our family and it was a hard choice but that another family had offered her $250.  She wasn't holding it over my head or trying to get me to match it, I think she just wanted me to know.  I don't know anything else about the family she matched with to know whether she made a bad choice...an extra $50 wouldn't be worth it to me if the family are unreasonable, didn't allow me to use a vehicle, etc.  But I just don't know.

I just realized that we sometimes have lost candidates that we really liked who I thought really liked us...and I'm wondering how common it is that people actually OFFER more than $200/week in matching to sweeten the pot.[/quote]

Sounds like OP didn't make the decision but the AP did by matching with the other family first.

I interpret it differently that since the AP chose to tell the OP about the offer, why would the AP mention it unless it is to test the waters and see if the OP is willing to entertain the idea.  It is a passive aggressive way of "holding it over my heard".  If the difference in stipend doesn't factor into the AP's decision, then the AP can make a decision on her own without ever sharing this info with the HF at all.  Why share this with the OP otherwise?

Any self-report on this forum on how many HF offer more is anecdotal and honestly, don't give into peer pressure.  Do what sounds right for you and your family, what you have the ability and desire to offer.  Who know if the people reporting that they offer more are actually HF even.  If you lost candidates, then it was just not meant to be - as the saying goes ... "she is just not that into you".  Don't second guess what you did or offered.  Another awesome AP, maybe an even more awesome one, is just around the corner.
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