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I was thinking of suggesting she invite her parents and 2 siblings to the US for Christmas.  I know her parents came about 5 years ago so getting a visa should not be an issue.

I looked at flights for that time of year and they run about $1100/pp.  My husband travels a great deal.  He has so many points its crazy.  Now we are not going to pay the entire cost of her family coming to visit but helping out.

In lieu of a Christmas bonus I was thinking we could use some of DH's points to get 2 plane tickets.  If we parted ways we could cancel the flights.  That could be a built in protection.  DH said as long as the flight was canceled more than 72 hours you could get your points back.  DH also suggested we use his points to cover the hotel portion.  It can be a win win for all of us.  Crazy idea?
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I wouldn't recommend this.  We've done something similar a couple times, and it's worked out badly.  Nanny doesn't appreciate it as much as she should. She thinks she then gets extra time off here.  Her family stays longer than you think.  It costs more points than you think.  It's just not worth it.

I think your nanny needs to get used to the fact that she gets 3 weeks off per year.  not 4, not 5, even unpaid.  What full-time real job just allows you to take extra unpaid vacatio whenever you want?  None.[/quote]

This would be my concern, too. You'll be presenting this idea to her like a major gift and a huge concession, and even if she agrees, she's going to receive it like free tickets (since they didn't cost you any real money, and she figures if she can afford one ticket, you can probably afford three with no problem anyway), and still less than what she really wanted, which was to go see her family in her home country.

So you're going to think you're giving her a gift, and she's going to think she's made a major compromise, and both of you are going to expect gratitude when instead you're going to feel like you did something you didn't really need or want to do. She's still going to want to take time off to spend with them while they're here, too -- wouldn't you?

You are in the world of different expectations. The only real way forward is a blunt conversation about what the time off parameters are for you, and asking her point-blank if that's going to be enough for her. I would also be prepared to let her go when her one week at Christmas becomes three weeks anyway.[/quote]

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