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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"The primary caregiver is always the parent. The responsibility, funding, decisions, stability rests with the parent. Good daytime caregivers - nannies, friends, teachers - add to the mom/dad, but they don't replace parents."

I'm an MB but...
1. no, parents are not always the primary caregivers. Primary caregiver is the one(s) w/ the child for most of their waking hours over a week/month/whatever. In some cases that might be mom, in many it's nanny. Nanny WAS my dd's primary caretaker my first year back at work. I hated that so i cut back hours some so that i was seeing DD at least as much as her, if not more.
2. even if nanny is the primary caretaker, of course that's not a replacement of the parents. They always have a unique and long term role. But parent does not always and necessarily equal primary caregiver.[/quote]
If you're an MB, you are a primary caregiver. You know why? A nanny, even the best nanny, can get another job, move countries, get married, and leave you with nothing but a sweet card and a three week notice. You, the mommy, are stuck with this. You'll be there. That's why.[/quote]
You need a dose of reality. As sad as it is, even some mommies leave their children. No one here is wearing a chain around her neck.[/quote]
Mommies leave children only very occasionally.  Nannies leave children, eventually, pretty much in 100% of cases. A mother is a lot more permanent presence in her child's life vs. a nanny.[/quote]

Stop taking the word "primary" so personally. It doesn't mean most important or permanent. It simply means the person providing the majority of care for the child. Some babies go to bed at 7 and wake at 7 the next morning. If nanny works from 6-6 or 7-6, she is the one who spends the most waking hours with the child, and provides most of the care. It is not a comment on how important the parent is, so chill out. [/quote]

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