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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Believe it or not some parents spoiled babies 
Rotten don’t want them to cry So you have to pick babies up rock then to sleep 
And want to be in a share not thinking about the other selfish

I would go crazy too
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You cannot spoil a baby.[/quote]

You can absolutely reinforce negative coping mechanisms and teach babies habits that are incompatible with healthy sleep, resulting in overtired, emotionally sensitive, clingy, grouchy, SPOILED babies!  She said they are crawling so these are not newborns who can be held all day.  They should be able to be put down but if the parents pick them up the second they fuss about anything, they will whine and cry ALL day because lack of emotional resilience is rewarded.[/quote]

No, you can't spoil a baby and its neglectful to ignore them.  You are paid to provide full time care and that is your only responsibility.  My kids didn't whine, cry or fuss all day from being held and attended to and if the ones you work with do, maybe it is your neglect all day that the parents then have to make up for.[/quote]

I find it hard to believe you are a nanny.  Maybe an attachment parent?  No one is talking about ignoring children.  We are talking about responding to the whole child in a way that allows them to sleep well and develop basic emotional coping strategies.  Not every problem a baby has is best solved by immediately picking them up and carrying them around.  Maybe they are frustrated because they want to grab a toy that is just out of reach.  Maybe they are impatient and want another bite of food NOW.  Maybe they are angry that you wouldn’t let them eat the trash they found on the carpet.  Maybe they are scared because they heard a loud roll of thunder.  Babies are perfectly capable of experiencing the full gamut of human emotions, and therefore they need a dynamic response that encourages and models pro-social behavior.  Crying is communication, and a loving, responsive caregiver engages with that communication, even if it means that the baby cries for a minute or two, instead of shutting down communication and learning by scooping the baby up and distracting them from the problem.

She is not describing parents who want her to engage more.  She is describing parents who cannot tolerate the sounds of babies who are experiencing any emotion other than happiness and that is not healthy or helpful.  [/quote]

You are being paid to be attentive to a child.  I am far from an attachment parent but what you/they are posting is neglectful.  No trash should be on the floor.  Your only job is to feed that kid there is no excuse the baby is waiting.[/quote]

There are two babies.  Either twins or a nanny share.  Even with one baby, sometimes they will need to wait a moment while you get more food, warm a bottle, open a pack of diapers, etc. etc. etc.  And even if you could make sure that they never experienced a single moment of waiting for anything, do you really truly believe that is better for a baby?  I don’t.  I am a seasoned twin nanny and I tandem babywear, do gentle sleep conditioning, apply a reggio-inspired positive-discipline approach with toddlers and up.  I am not some hard-line authoritarian.  But every bit of research I have ever seen into child development says that it is safe, appropriate and healthy for babies and young children to experience both positive AND negative emotions and that the caregivers job is not to distract from negative emotions but to teach the child to communicate, process and move forward from negative emotions.  That requires constant, loving presence and focused attention, but it does not mean that the babies never cry.  Scooping a baby up and distracting them until they smile again is the easy way out in the short-term, and unhealthy in the long term.[/quote]

This.  Absolutely this!  Babies who never get to learn to process negative emotions turn into toddlers who rage and have uncontrollable temper tantrums.  Babies who learn to process positive and negative emotions can segue into toddlerhood more smoothly, and their communication about emotions is better.[/quote]

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