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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have early mornings in our house for both parents, then both kids are in school, one finishes at 1:00 and the other at 3:00. School is about a 10 minute walk. One parent gets home about 5:00, the other about 6:30.

We had wanted an au pair to help with mornings as they are chaotic and the kids don't need to be up and out the door as early as we are. The plan was OP would help with mornings, take them to school, pick them up at 1:00 and 3:00 and help with the kids while parent gets dinner ready and then be off duty.

Turns out OP is not a morning person at all. She is like a moody teen in the morning, half awake and just in a fog. She is a night owl and swears she goes to bed earlier but can't sleep. Her help in the mornings actually became more of a burden then a help and we ended up doing everything anyways as she is just too sleepy to move the kids along. She started staying in bed longer and longer. Eventually I just left her there as she really wasn't helping anyways and it was just more stressful. NO amount of meetings or conversations seemed to help as she feels she is just biologically programmed this way. It has now gotten to the point that I just drop the kids off at school on my way out the door as she is usually still schlepping around in her pajamas with her eyes half shut buttering the same English muffin for 5 minutes and it annoys me so much I just take the kids and get out of the house. By afternoon, she is awake and fine - not fantastic but fine. No issues with the rest of the day.

The other day, she didn't even get up and we just went through our routine just like we did before the AP. In some ways it was almost easier and less stressful as i wasn't irritated that she was doing so little and since I was doing everything anyways, it wasn't anymore work.

Yet at the same time, the person I am paying to help is sleeping at a time when her help (if it was actual help) would be part of the reason why we got an AP. Should I just leave it or is it worth the battle?[/quote]

start the rematch process, line up your ducks, give her final ultimatum to do her job as the older child in the family, then keep or dump her. No way would I put up with that for longer than a week. I would charge her my hourly rate for doing her duties. [/quote]

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