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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here. I think what nannies sometime fail to understand that every time they ask for a favor, employers are balancing our opposition to the request with the desire to have “happy nanny - happy kids”, the pain of finding last minute back up care, the inconvenience/impact to the family of replacing the nanny, and the general theory about “the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know”...

My last nanny who was with us for four years gradually pushed that boundary, to the point that we parted ways.. It started pretty innocently, “can my 14 yo daughter that I have 50/50 custody for come to work with me on the teacher work days?”. Ok, that’s fine... “I have a water emergency at my house... can I take the kids and watch them there while I wait for plumber?”... not thrilled, but I can’t get back-up care for right now so go ahead... “I promised to my daughter that we will go to XYZ together today. I think your kids will like it. Can we all go together?”. Definitely not. But now if I say “no”, I either will have a frustrated nanny or will need to find a backup care in the next hour. Since XYZ is not dangerous, I just don’t think it is appropriate for a 5 year old, I say “yes”, but it is a strike against the nanny... And you know what happens after three strikes, right?

OP, if Mom is visiting from overseas for 1 week, and you are asking an existing family if she can join you for 2 out of 5 days she is here, most of MBs will say yes sure. Otherwise, you will have to take PTO and we have to think of the back up care... However, your mom is coming for 3 MONTHS! How about weekends? This is when all us normal people hang out with our families. My mom spends less than 3 months in our area, and 4-5 weekends together a year is more than enough. You will have 12 weekends in the three months together.

Please do take your mom to the interviews. The new family needs to know what they are getting into before hiring you! There might be a family there desperate enough to see it as “two helpers for the price of one”. [/quote]

I agree with this MB.  To some extent, the nanny's employer may be reluctant to say no to these special requests, but that doesn't mean they are happy about them.  When they add up to a certain threshold of inappropriateness/inconvenience, employers will be motivated to look elsewhere, especially if they are paying top dollar.  (From the $33/hour a nanny, nothing less than perfection would be expected, including 100% dedication to my child/children with no visiting mum and perfect English.)[/quote]

Another MB who agrees 100%.  The old adage, “it doesn’t hurt to ask” is completely untrue in the nanny/employer context.  [/quote]

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