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[quote=Anonymous]You need to ask the AP what she would most likely do during her time off during the day from Mon to Fri.  If she plans to go out most every day on a regular basis (to the gym, Starbucks, see friends, day classes several times a week etc.) then, you will have a difficult time with 3 people sharing 2 cars during the weekday.  If she has a split schedule but all her friends work straight through the day, she won't have friends to go and hang out with anyway.  If she doesn't like going to the gym and is more a runner or cyclist who prefers the jogging or biking trails (is there one?) by your house, then she won't need a car.  If she is a home body and goes into her room every chance she gets to skype with people back home, then she won't be going out much.  Not every AP will desire to go out a lot and need a car with unrestricted access.  However, you need to understand your AP's needs and like other PP said, she may have a personality that will be reluctant to tell you what she really wants and her unhappiness just festers until something happens that sets her off and she calls a rematch.

Bottom line is you really won't know until she gets here about what kind of activities she wants to spend her time doing.    She probably doesn't have a clue either and whatever she tells you now is only what she imagines anyway.  She may imagine a certain kind of life and feels it is okay to not always have access to a car until reality hits and she makes friends with others who have access to a car when she cannot or she finds something she likes to do that she did not know about before but needs a car to get to.

If unrestricted access to a car is not feasible, then at least make the car access a regular and dependable schedule so the AP can make plans and not have to check with you every time she wants to take the car out.  Having the choice and ability to use or not use a car feeds into a sense of independence and contributes to happiness.[/quote]

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