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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op will either head for rematch or not. It doesn't require a self-entitled princess to be unhappy with their arrangement. We have 2 cars and 3 adults too, but more the opposite. The 2nd car is almost always available for our au pair and on very rare occasions, we need both our cars. She turned out to be a somewhat timid driver and prefers to have other au pairs pick her up when off duty. But that is HER choice, not the unavailability of a car.

If you don't need an au pair, I would suggest not bothering with the program. It's a lot of effort for something you don't *really* need, so the negatives will end up bothering you a lot. Both sides have to make compromises, not just the HF telling the au pair to deal. Rematch is a huge pain and agencies do not like to give any money back, so you're likely out a lot of money.[/quote]

I think I made it very clear that we are willing to make compromises. I never said in any of my posts the AP just had to "deal." What I said, was that while we are only required to have the car available for meetings and classes, we also plan to have it available for most evenings and weekends but that morning/ early afternoon requires 3 adults to share.  Sharing was how it was described to AP, and yes it is sharing, as the entire point of my post is how to schedule that "sharing." The responses I'm getting are that the au pair should not have to share even a tiny bit, that the entire burden of inconvenience falls to us,  and that we should buy a car.  Which not only adds the cost of the car, but also makes her the primary driver of that car and thus the insurance goes from $400 extra a year to a few thousand.  If people participating in the AP program really followed the advice of the AP trolls on this board who seem to think money is no object and the answer is ALWAYS- yes, HF, spend, buy, more, more more etc. then people would just spend $60000 and hire an experienced nanny. Or less and have a live out one.  It isn't about sucking out as many hours as possible in our case for the cheapest amount. It is about whether or not the cost is reasonable considering we have other much less expensive options-  but prefer to go this route and participate in a cultural exchange. We will hold out for the fact that the program does have appeal even for those of us who don't  "need" to hire the cheapest person possible for 45 hours a week.  We could definitely spend less money continuing with a local babysitter and summer camp, but are excited about helping this person meet her goals and experience the program.  If she shows up and is as entitled and greedy as the the trolls here,  it does give me comfort that we spelled it all out in advance and will not be in a position to scramble if AP is not able to share as she has indicated she is or turns out to otherwise be nothing but a pain like many of you here seem to be.  From our interviews and informational exchange I believe she is the person she says she is and that she isn't agreeing to our terms but planning to show up and change everything. I will continue  to give her the benefit of the doubt until she proves otherwise that she is going to be as problematic and unable to share as the rest of you seem to want to believe. [/quote]

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