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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe if you already have a child and can't have another than that's Mother Nature telling you to stop. Enjoy the child you do have. If you want another so desperately than look into adoption, there are thousands of children who need a home and it will cost the same as a surrogate, less if you look outside the US.

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Why is this always the last possible thought that occurs to people? Rather than love the children they have or give an amazing opportunity to a child that would not otherwise have it, people want to spend a fortune to put someone else's body, emotions and psyche in an incredibly taxing position. It's amazingly selfish. [/quote]

1) Adoption is a long process, and can take many more years than surrogacy.
2) Contrary to popular belief, there are not that many healthy infants up for adoption. Some parents feel very strongly about having a baby, in no small part because of the issues that children who are adopted later in their lives often exhibit.
3) Not every parent who is prepared to raise a child from birth is equally prepared to welcome an 8-year-old with severe rage into their family. Not everyone is equipped to adopt a child with Down's Syndrome or FAS or etc. etc. etc. This doesn't mean they wouldn't be great parents, just that it is not something they have the knowledge, finances, time, or energy to deal with appropriately. [/quote]

Read what was being responded to. OP has stated that they already have children, they just feel the need for more. If your body is too old to carry a baby, how well do you think your body is going to hold up when that child is a toddler or a teenager? Perhaps, instead of getting everything that we want all of the time by any means necessary just because we have the money to do so, it would be beneficial to look at the root causes of some things. And, yes, perhaps if you are unable to have a baby on your own, that is a sign that you should be done having children. And clearly, OP is not concerned with the adoption issues you have presented. I have little doubt that someone who is as shortsighted and self absorbed (really asking your NANNY to carry your child, for $9000) as she is has not even considered alternatives. [/quote]

I'm not really convinced OP is real and if she is I think she sounds like a horrible person for not considering the consequences of what she wants to do BUT I think she has every right to have a child via surrogate if that's what she wants. She never said how old she is, just that the nanny is younger than she is. There are people who have healthy children for the first time in their 40's and some who suddenly develop fertility issues at 35 even though they have successfully conceived and had children in the past. Where do you draw the line and say "you are too old to have more children"? Should someone who is 40 and never had a child be allowed to have a biological child of their own via surrogate but someone who is 35 and has a child but desperately wants a sibling for them not be allowed to use a surrogate?

I think adopting is a wonderful thing to do but as a PP commented it's not for everyone. So who are you to decide who should be allowed to have a surrogate and who isn't? Assuming of course they plan to go through the proper channels to find a surrogate and not ask their nanny. [/quote]

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