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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHM here.  Though my DH and DCs are “trained” to help and do so, I am responsible for both childcare responsibilities and household duties.  Although I will have taken 20 years off my career as an attorney, when all is said and done the work I have done by staying “at home” will never be valued by society generally or for social security purposes (issue for another posting).  It is clearly difficult work – as neither nannies nor MBs or DBs seem interested in the day-to-day difficulties of both caring for the children and managing the household duties.  As PPs note, however, this is the path I chose, and I am by-and-large comfortable with it.

However, and here is my point, as a former student of Economics (and no, not Home Economics), I recognize that the value of all work is quantifiable, and that the work that I do (childcare duties + household responsibilities) can and will be done by someone else -- given enough money.  In Latin America, the truly wealthy will hire someone separate for every task (cook, chauffeur, nanny, laundress, and housekeeper).   The merely wealthy might hire only a manejadora (nanny) and housekeeper.  Latin American manejadoras are really jacks-of-all-trades -- they cook the meals, clean the house, do the laundry, and take care of the children.  Go to a public park in Key Biscayne, Florida today, and you will see that these “manejadoras” or nannies, even wear formal uniforms (which I find truly shocking!).

I am simply saying that although some nannies may not want to fill the role of SAHP, responsible for both all the childcare and household work (and I do not fault you, because who does?), there are other nannies who are happy -- or at least willing – to contract to do ALL the stay-at-home work of the family.  Any variation of nanny work is fine, so long as both the nanny and the employer carefully discuss at the outset what they expect from the other, and the nanny is fairly compensated for the amount of work done.
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Agreed, since as a SAHM I clean up (with the help of DH and DCs) 24/7.  I am merely noting that some nannies are willing to contract -- given enough money -- for the work that you do not want to do (and I do not fault you< as I would not want to do it either).  However, some nannies would be willing to contract to clean up the weekend mess.  Please talk to your employer about what they expect, and do not work for them if they want more than you should or want to give.

What did your post have to do with the topic at hand? OP is not upset about housekeeping duties, she's upset that the parents don't pick them up in the evenings and on the weekends. You're a SAHP, its your house and your family, so yes you're always on and that's a choice you made. I am a nanny during certain hours (if I were a 24 hour nanny, then I'd expect to be responsible for my duties around the clock) and its not my job to wash your dishes/bottles or clean messes made while I was off, its my employers job when they are home just as is for any other able-bodied adult. If a mess is made and my MB just didn't get to it, I have no problem helping out. That's not the issue. To say that the nanny is responsible for keeping your house running smoothly whether she is on the clock or not, and that its fine for you to routinely leave it all weekend for her to handle on Monday is simply lazy and entitled. Most people have jobs. Most people don't have nannies. And yet, most people manage to take care of their kids and home in the evenings and on weekends without keeling over and dying. [/quote][/quote]

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