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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ours is leaving July 30th and we are exiting the program. She has been interviewing and many are offering a true hourly wage (10 seems standard) and a signing bonus. She definitely does not want the DC area. Competition between families is fierce. She is down to 2 families.  One in Florida and one in Colorado. Both are offering dedicated car, nice living quarters and a signing bonus of $2500.

I advise her to milk them for as much as she can. There are so many families looking. We are giving her the glowing reference she deserves.[/quote]

If a candidate decided to "milk me for all I'm worth" then I would see red flags and walk away. We are reasonable, we follow the rules. We have a bedroom and bathroom on a separate floor. But we don't host princesses. [/quote]

And that's fine. It's called negotiating. If you don't want to hire someone, by all means walk away, some people don't mind paying $$$ for someone who has great qualifications, excellent recommendations and can see the value in (especially in the current climate).  I personally don't see a problem in negotiating, I like confidence (especially when it's backed up by experiences and recommendations), I would rather pay more for an AP who already has experience being an AP, have a US driving license, have been sheltering and already know life in quarantine with a family and can come ASAP and great recommendations and who knows her worth and can prove it, than a new AP who might be a dud, might need driving lessons, might hate being an AP etc... sometimes, the knowledge your kids are in good hands is worth all the extra $, especially right now.

Honestly I am curious about the paycheck most of the HMs from this thread's get at the end of the month considering how many people see asking for a raise as '' being a princess'' and  ''lacking moral compass''. [b]Do all of you really walk into a job, and just accept the first salary and minimum perks that's offered to you and never ever ask for a raise and just wait to magically be considered for a promotion?[/b] No wonder there is a wage gap between male and females if that's the case, especially when I see how women are reacting to a young woman negotiating her pay.

I want my kids to know and learn that it's always okay for them to ask for what they think they are worth, they might get it, they might not but they most definitely won't get it if they don't ask.

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As an employer of both an AuPair and 16 direct reports I can tell you that women almost always do this and I have never seen a man do this.

Maybe that poster needs to change her mindset from one of servant to one of value. I feel sorry for thrmnif they are raising girls. Tje continued cycle of not valuing themselves. This is what I find truly gross [/quote]

And exactly! It’s sickening to see women preaching on other women to undersell themselves.

Women complain about wage gap (and yes it’s worth moaning about) but then gasp at the idea of actually asking for their worth. It’s a massively strange concept.  Either you believe women should be paid their fair worth and therefore what’s wrong with negotiating? And if not then what’s wrong with wage gap?

It’s even more disturbing that women have compassion for everyone but themselves, why would you put the interest of someone with a bigger capital than yours above your own personal interest, how does that benefit anyone but the person who didn’t need you to do that sacrifice in the first place? It’s quite sad actually that some people/women willingly sell themselves short and even more so see it as a quality of some sort.

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