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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, I think I have a different perspective here.

It sounds to me like DD likes being an older sibling and wants more control in general.  There are ways to encourage good relationships between them and give her more control without getting into a trap of her taking care of him or disrespecting adults.

I’d suggest sitting down with DD and asking her about exactly what happened and why.  Listen to what she’s telling you about the events, ask how she feels and why she reacted as she did.  Ask what her ideas are about how she can help at bedtime, and remind her that it’s helping, not doing everything.  For some older siblings, it might be helping with bath time, pjs or reading to the younger sibling (I would certainly steer towards this!), but actually making sure the younger child settles down to sleep should always be an adult.  Explain that you need her to do what she’s agreed to at the agreed time and then let the adult finish bedtime, or the adult will need to do bedtime without her help.

I would also explore ways for her to help more and have more control in other ways and at other times.  At 7, she could make breakfast or lunch, pack lunchboxes for school, or do chores.  I would actively discourage her from helping him do anything he should at least try for himself (getting dressed, putting on shoes, etc).

[b]Btw, sitter shouldn’t have threatened to call the fire department...  That caused the situation to spiral.  And an adult who gets so overwrought that she starts bawling has no business caring for children, at least of those ages[/b].[/quote]

Wait... what?

It sounds like the DD locked herself AND her baby brother in the child's room... er go, locking the sitter outside the room.

You're damn straight I'm gonna threaten to call the fire department if she won't open that door. Guess what?? 
I'm also gonna threaten to call the police, her parents, Santa Claus, her principal and Ariana Grande to report that she won't allow me in.
You'll see how fast that door opens.

Secondly, where did you get that it was the sitter throwing the tantrum??
It sounds like it was her DAUGHTER who "screamed and cried" at the thought of the fire department being called... not the sitter.  :roll:

You really need to work on your reading comprehension skills, because it sounds like you were WAY off base with your entire post and suggestions.

This child doesn't need to be coddled some more, she's already in control of that entire household. 
It's clearly the daughter's house and three daughters world... OP just lives in it.

And btw OP, in your original post you absolutely DID mention getting rid of the sitter... now you're changing your story to it being a "work around".
The comments you perceived as off base or negative were all due to what you wrote in your OP... try reading it again.
The responses that you perceived as critical and off base had nothing to do with being on DCUM & everything to do with your OP.

Like I said, it's your daughter's world and you only live in it.

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