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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My impression is that there is hostility all around this relationship that has very little to do with Oreos.  It sounds like a power struggle, and a likely rematch.  OP, I'd let the Orea thing go (if that is really what is bugging you) and not let this issue tank your relationship if your AP is otherwise doing well.  I'd add $5 to her stipend and tell her that you are generously giving her this money so she can treat herself to whatever items you don't care to have in your grocery cart but that you expect her to consume them outside of your childrens' company/knowledg e.[/quote]

I agree this is a power struggle. But, I once had an AP that did similar things- throw fits about various minor issues to slowly push the envelop on the rules. Looking for harmony, I relented until I was miserable- I had trained her to sulk and throw tantrums in order to get her way. The final straw was her demand to bring random men home from bars.  I said no, she cried and stomped around the house, I put in for rematch, and she was totally shocked.

OP, don't give in. Don't relent. This isn't the oreos. You owe it to her to be up front about the fact that the rules are firm and you are willing to rematch over them. She can buy oreos and count chocula. [/quote]

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