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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My impression is that there is hostility all around this relationship that has very little to do with Oreos.  It sounds like a power struggle, and a likely rematch.[/quote]

This!
If it's in the handbook that HF does not provide junkfood, this is one of the easiest conversations ever. "Sorry AP, as we have stated in our handbook, we don't buy xyz because we don't want the kids to have it and we want you to be a good role model. Feel free to buy it from your stipend and keep it in your room. Just please make sure the kids don't get into it and don't share it with them."

Seriously? If you want to keep her, if you want her to be happy and feel appreciated just buy her a stupid $5 party sized box of Oreos. Tell her not to share them and keep them out of the kids' sight. Buy her the cereal she is asking for (new-to-her US foods is also part of sharing your culture, even if you don't aprove) and put it on the top shelf of the pantry, where your kids can't reach (and teach your kids that there are certain foods that are adult only, you also don't want them to get into your wine or something you have bought for yourself). She is not asking for smoked salmon, caviar and steak for an afternoon snack. She is asking for cheap, unhealthy cookies. This is such a non-topic that I can't believe that this is a hill anyone wants to die on. You can police what your children eat, to a limit. This is your right as a parent (you still can't stop them from sharing snacks at school or trading their full grain low fat cottage cheese and sliced pear sandwich for their friend's pb&j on white bread). She is an adult. Yes, she could buy the stupid cookies herself. But really? This is just too pathetic to be the core of the issue.

Also, snacks are part of "board". Most young adults cannot live off three set meals a day and need/want to snack inbetween. I don't think we's be discussing if "snacks" were considered "board" if we were talking bananas. At least I hope we wouldn't. (I know we would) Heck, I want to be able to snack whenever I feel like it. If I am hungry in the afternoon I go to the fridge and grab a joghurt or an apple or, yes, a cookie. Or two. Or three. Because thankfully, as an adult, that is something I get to chose to do. Even knowing it's unhealthy and I am making bad choices. Cookies and cereal? Totally valid request. Caviar and Dom Perignon? Drama llama.[/quote]

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