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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have about a month left with my current insecure AP who has to be told explicitly how to do every single thing. She is just ok with my kids but she is very kind and her actions come from an honest place.

It has been the longest year of my life on my 5th AP. But I would never have sent her to rematch over it. Sending her to rematch and possibly having to go home because of her irritating habits and lack of confidence to make any decisions seems wrong to me because in the grand scheme of things it really is small stuff and my kids are safe.

With all of that said, I feel for you OP. I have smiled my way through it and it’s exhausting!   I will breathe a sigh of relief when I drop her off at the airport. [/quote]

From one of the first kids who had APs starting when the legal program began in the 80's: getting a fresh start and hoping for a "perfect" new AP is one of the best things about the AP program for the families.  Unfortunately, when you have someone whom you or your children are really attached to, it's also the worst thing about the program. For this reason, I would never rematch for minor irrititants; some of the APs who weren't "perfect" caregivers turned out to be lifelong friends to me and my parents. [/quote]

So you’re reflecting from the point of view of a child, and not a host parent?  My kids have very different reasons for liking or disliking their APs, and it’s up to the parents to decide what the dealbreakers might be. My young kids  aren’t concerned about car safety, texting while driving,etc, but to me they are more than just mild irritants.[/quote]

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