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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh... the responses to threads like this are so tiresome.  Mothers do desperately trying to minimize the importance of the nanny to their child.  Like a PP, I am not threatened by my daughter's love for her nanny nor am I about to downplay her importance to my daughter.

To OP, you sound like a happy and secure mother.  Some of the others... send your kids to daycare.  [/quote]

I'm one of the PPs "desperately trying to minimize..." etc., according to you.  It's not that I think the nanny is not important to the child, I'm being realistic.  The fact is that there are many barriers to a nanny staying a *regular* part of the child's life.  I don't mean occasional visits, but consistent quality time with the child so that the bond is maintained, which is what a lot of PPs are suggesting.  Most nanny jobs are 5 days/week, full-time hours, so chances are that the job with best fit for the nanny will not come with a day or several hours off where she can have a regular babysitting gig.  If she's working 45-50 hours/week, chances are good she will want the weekends to herself and not want to date night sit her prior charge OR her new NF will ask her to do occasional date night sitting and that is all she will have time for.  DC's former nanny truly loved DC and when we could not keep her on anymore, I told her that it would make us so happy if she stayed in DC's life by regular date night or weekday sitting and she refused straightaway.  She was used to being a big part of DC's life and knew she would no longer be if watching DC for a few hours a week and would rather have the clean break.  In my past interviewing of nannies, one question I ask is if they are in touch with prior charges and maybe a couple would see theirs every few months or so.  No one had a regular or semi-regular visit or babysitting gig and while there can be many reasons for this (NF moved away, kids are too old to be babysat, MB/DB didn't want to continue the relationship), my observation is that it is very uncommon so should not be expected by the OP or other MBs.  [/quote]

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