Reply to How has being a nanny changed your ideals of parenting?

Forum Index » General Discussion

Reply to "How has being a nanny changed your ideals of parenting?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I so agree with those saying "No children!".
I used to want 2-3 but now I want none. I feel ashamed to admit this to anyone. Anytime I tell someone, they always say,"You'll feel different about your own children." But I don't think I will.

This job, to me, is rather lonely, boring, and calls for faking so much happiness. 
I'm so sad that I feel this way. I want to want children.... perhaps the long winter is just giving me the blues! 
Such an interesting topic. I love how open and honest everyone is on this thread:)[/quote]

For all those saying you don't want children...do you not want kids at all, ever? Or just not want to have your day job involve taking care of them?

I'm a WOHM knows I would not enjoy having my identity be bound up with being a SAHM or nanny. For me it would be isolating and repetitive, especially because although I love my babies I don't want to rock and shush 24/7 or even 9-5. I do plenty of 2 hour shifts around the clock, including nursing at least 10+ hours a day (WAH for much of their first year of life), but I wouldn't enjoy doing it straight through or not having other activities to think about if that makes sense. The way I see it is that this phase is temporary and I am ok with sharing their care. I think it is overall healthier for me and them not to have someone burn out, which is why I also prefer two PT nannies or PT nanny/preschool once they get to that age. Is it normal to like kids, just not want to be solely responsible for caring for them 24/7? I think it is.

Of course being a parent means being ultimately responsible 24/7 and loving them impossibly and all that. It just seems possible to find some balance between that and exposing them to different caregivers. In other societies kids are still being brought up in large extended family settings, which seems healthier for all. It's only here that we have this ideal of nuclear family/intense mother-child bond to the exclusivity of other relationships.[/quote]

I'm a nanny and I've known for over a decade that I can't have my own children, so eventually I will foster, maybe adopt.  Oh, and I have worked 24/7 twice, and I loved it. Some find fulfillment in being with kids, some don't,  it's that simple.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics