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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This whole post has officially become ridiculous. We have our own set of rules in our home, but labeling all males as potential pedophiles is crazy. How do you deal with cousins, nephews, uncles visiting? OR maybe brothers of your AP? I wonder if you even have children in school... Do you trust teachers? Coaches? Life is scary, but banning all contact with makes might just very well bring your children other issues later in life...

In response with a previous poster with male AP and male kids (and she is perhaps the OP?), I think gender might have something to do with your decision. I have female APs and 3DDs, but I see my friends and siblings who are raising boys and the standard for what is acceptable in their eyes is substantially different. I find that moms of boys in general are much more lenient with their sons' behaviors (have sex with multiple partners? one night stands? smoking weed? Unruly behaviors?), almost as if they were acceptable, normal, and in some cases even 'cute'. I see many of these boys being excused for behaviors that would not be acceptable for girls. [/quote]

I host a male AP and I'm not so sure who you hang out with, but none of my fiends find drug use acceptable. Maybe we just choose to associate with different friends and have wildly different families. My brother is in the FBI and would flip his shit if his boys were not in line.

I used to host females and I'd say the promiscuity was much more so with the women than the guy ( and he is super cute!). Out last AP was always on Tinder and had to make a rule of no strange men and we absolutely allow sleepovers, just not randoms. Her best AP friend also had a ton of one night stands from Tinder.

Times have changed and there is absolutely no difference between the sexual agressive between girls and guys.  With our male AP, thry are all over him, he can't get a break and jokes about the "crazy Brazilians".[/quote]

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