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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks everyone for your help. DB totally spilled the beans today. MB left early for work today, DB was standing around chatting with me and I asked him what he thought of the preschool tour. He said they "loved it and are definitely going for it." He said "don't worry though, it's only 2.5 hours twice a week so you're only going to lose five hours per week, and we'll try to come up with a way for you to make them up at other times if we can."

My schedule is 8am-5:30pm M-F, and preschool is 9:30-12, so it's not "just" five hours I'd be losing, it's at least 8 hours per week. Based on what they both have said already, they don't plan to fill that time for me, I just will be off unpaid, and it sounds like MB or DB or possibly grandma will do drop offs. I live pretty far from my NFs home and the preschool, about 40 mins away, which they know, so it wouldn't make sense for me to come and do 90 mins and a drop off just to come back 2.5 hours later (it would if I was being paid and using that time for chores and errands, but that's clearly not what they're thinking). When DB said it's only 5 hours a week, he was only considering the hours DD will be in school, not the other 1.5 hours I'd be losing those mornings, so it's really 8 hours per week I'm losing. And since that's all the OT I make, my earnings will be reduced by $800 each month!

The biggest issue of course isn't money, it's the trust, which I feel that I've lost. I'll be speaking with my husband tonight about moving sooner if we can. Thank you again. [/quote]

gosh op I am so sorry!  I know this must be nerve wrecking.  I think if you re going to stay versus going ahead and looking for something else would be to pull your mb to the side, but i suggest sending her an email or text and mention that db said that you all have decided to go for it. mention how you know sometimes husbands can misconstrue things but you would love to have a sit down with her to clarify things for your peace of mind and so you can act accordingly.  I would keep it very light and cheerful and use a smiley even.  but professional.  then once you have the sit down that will have forced her to clarify things with him beforehand and she will have some definites ready for you.  Keep in mind that no matter what tell her you want your contract to reflect the changes.  If you aren't happy with what she has to say move on.  good luck!

ps 
id start looking regardless because it sounds like she is being unnecessarily sneaky about this[/quote]

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