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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If anything being a nanny has made me want children even more. It has given me a chance to see and test out different parenting styles, taught me what baby products i really need/want and how to eliminate bad habits from early on. sleep training, potty training, healthy eating habits, and age appropriate activities are some of the major things i've learned over the years to address immediately and have figured out how i will handle them. I will surprisingly be a very earthly crunchy mother with clear age appropriate expectations (no attachment parenting for me). I also want to raise humble, respectful children who don't take what is given to them for granted. They won't be getting every toy they want and will be expected to donate their toys and time to charity or volunteer when they are old enough. 
Hopefully i will have a spouse that will support my parenting style and will be actively involved. Honestly if i take one thing away from this field, its that i want a husband that is going to be an active involved father, who will be as excited about our children as i will. Unfortunately, I've worked with families where the father has no interest in the children and its quite depressing.

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Wow, did I write this and forget?  Agree 100% with everything you said.[/quote]

I would not assume by your observations that the dad does not what children or is not enthusiastic about them. You never know what is going on in couples. My nanny met my husband on her interview and never again. He is gone before she arrives and arrives after she leaves. I also never talk about him because it just never comes up. But, I consult him throughout the day on text and he is very caring and responsive.

The reason why my nanny never sees my husband is because he is so busy working to pay for the house, the groceries, the nanny, and everything that costs money so the family can live comfortably.[/quote]

First, why so defensive?

Second, you are not the kind of family we are talking about.  I have worked for (multiple) families where I basically worked all hours when MB or another sitter weren't there because the dad couldn't (wouldn't) care for his child/ren alone.  Sure, lots of people have the nanny in every so often on a day when they just want a sitter so that they can relax or run errands, but if it's openly discussed that Dad has NEVER left the house with his child, that he has NEVER handled bedtime or a meal, if I am working while he is in the living room watching reruns multiple times per month, then that is a dad who is clearly checked out.  I wouldn't have realized that it was even possible to be physically living in the same house as your own child and be THAT detached unless I had seenit happen multiple times as a nanny, and it's made me much more attuned to that in potential partners.[/quote]

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