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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children. [/quote]

We should have a separate Nanny's Day.  I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker.  I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure".  Uck!  [/quote]

Totally agree!!!

Absolutely pick a day to celebrate the nanny.  But that isn't Mother's Day.[/quote]

+1,000,000

I am not a mother figure to my charges!  [/quote]

as another nanny, I don't understand this sentiment. How are you not a mother figure? Mother figure and mother substitute are not the same thing. As a nanny, if you're doing your job right, your relationship is much closer to that of a mother figure than that of a teacher. I've been with my charge since she was 4 weeks old. I was there when she took her first steps, said her first words, rocked her to sleep at night, cared for her when sick, celebrated her birthdays, kissed her boo boos. I don't expect to be recognized on Mother's day, but why would I take offense if I was? Kind of ridiculous.[/quote]

I am one of the above PP's and I have been with my charge since his birth and love him dearly - but I am not a mother figure!  He has a great mother.  I am bonded to him but am his caretaker and teacher - not a mother figure.  Think about it this way - if I were a male, would I be a father figure?  Since I am older, should I be considered a grandmother figure?

Terms like "mother figure" are damaging to the nanny/MB relationship as well as wrong for the child.  Children have "mother figures" in their lives when they don't have mothers.  Our charges have mothers.  
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I agree with this, and really like/appreciate this perspective.

My kids have a wonderful nanny - she loves them deeply and they love her equally.  I wouldn't want it any other way.  But she is not a "mother figure".  She just isn't.  And she wouldn't presume to say that she is.  She works for us and cares for the kids in the way we direct.  We hired her (and retained her for years) because of her very loving nature, and she is many important things in my kids' lives.

But mother figure is not one of them.   [/quote]

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