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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My day ended yesterday after the park tantrum,,, the  6 year old tantrum because I wouldn't let him eat junk food all afternoon, both having tantrums because I asked them to put their shoes in the basket y the door and not to jump on the  couch, the 4 year old having a melt down over nap time

The day ended  with another tantrum this time because I put the 4 year old's milk in the wrong cup ( didn't realize there was a right one) and because her milk wasn't  warm ( didn't realize she needed it warm)  she goes on a screaming fit and tries to kick me all because I ask her to ask in a kinder voice if she wanted a new cup and warm milk

Mom enters as  this is happening. I explain the situation. What does she do picks the girl up cuddles her like she's an infant and says"oh well she does like her milk warm."

Can't fix clueless.

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Ha and I love how parents think this is normal behavior. Kids will have tantrums but by 4 and 6 the parents should have taught them a routine for dealing with there feeling. I worked for one family where the boy would communicate to me that he was going to have a tantrum and then go to his room until he calmed down. Then he would come out and talk to me about his feelings and what set him off. Now that is good parenting. By 4 and 6 violent tantrums are not acceptable.  [/quote]

I don't necessarily see this as 'normal' but kids this age can still have issues with 'self regulation'. Despite years of trying to help them, my kids still have tantrums at ages 4 and almost 7. Actually, the 4 year old has only really started tantrums over these sorts of minor things in the last year or so. With the older one, I have discovered that food colouring is a huge trigger. My kids are adopted and come from a birth family with a history of ADHD, learning and behavioral difficulties etc. At least we are trying to do something to help them (in the midst of pyschiatric assessments) ... having said that, I regularly see kids the same age having similar tantrums. They are kids, you can't expect them to be perfectly reasonable. I do agree though that you can expect the parents to have a system in place to try to manage and minimize the behaviour.[/quote]

As a nanny all I can say is that when it comes to tantrums, if the parents are on my side and I can see them actively trying to come up with solutions I have no problems. I've dealt with some nasty tantrums, one kid threatened me with scissors and one kid took his shoe off while I was driving on the highway and threw it at my head. I stayed in both of these jobs though because the parents were willing to work with me. The one job I left with no notice I left because the parents just didn't give a crap.[/quote]

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